Post # 1
Well, tomorrow is Valentine’s Day so we will be doing a candle light dinner… over Skype. I’m not excited. I know I should be, but I can’t help but feel like we’re forced to “celebrate” this Hallmark holiday which only makes us both more sad. On top of being more sad, he got his gift and card in the mail early but instead of waiting for our candlelit dinner, he already opened them. I’m not mad at him because I didn’t tell him they were in the mail but they were both covered in hearts and wrapped in red… I know he can be bad with hints but damn.
Just feeling a little bummed out and wish I was home so we could go to a real Valentine’s Day dinner OR just ignore the whole thing alltogether. I don’t know why being far away makes it seem like we have to acknowledge this disheartening holiday of hearts.
Sorry for the gloom. Hope everyone else gets to see their love tomorrow (even if it is just on Skype)
Post # 3
we’ll be doing Skype/Facetime as well hopefully, but I’m not even sure we’ll get to do that. FI is in Texas for work and I’ll be on a plane flying to Rome. I get on a plane at 4pm Texas time so he’ll still be working. Not sure I’ll even get to talk to him.
Bottom line – I feel your sadness and am in the same boat 🙁
Post # 4
I litterly am in a boat… I’m on mine so is on his and we’re an ocean away. cell phones don’t even work on his! so enjoy your day! atleast you sorta get to “see” him 🙂
Post # 5
been there, done that. we were 2,655 miles away from each other last year. i think we watched a movie over skype for valentine’s last year. movie dates were standard for us for the first few months when we were together, since we were so far apart.
it’ll be worth it in the end when you are together, i promise.
Post # 6
I think Valentines Day is just a Hallmark holiday anyways. I hope you have a good skype date, but don’t put too much pressure on it just because it’s Valentines Day.
Post # 7
No one has to celebrate Valentines day.
That being said, before I began dating my husband I was in a 3 year long distance relationship. He was in Ohio, I was in California. Valentines day was rough for the both of us as we didn’t get to share a right proper dinner. But we always spent it playing games on Skype or something. I know those feels. But if you don’t want to celebrate V-Day, don’t?
Post # 8
*hug* I’m sorry, I know how you feel – mine is currently 8,224 miles away in India. Tonight will be Valentine’s Day morning for him and I’ll be celebrating V-day as he’s getting ready for bed tomorrow. The place he’s staying at has constant power outages and crappy internet, plus we have no time for Skype even if we could. I mailed him a card, but it prob won’t get to him til next week lol.
He apparently sent me a gift that should arrive tonight, and I think the sneak ordered flowers for my office tomorrow. But it’s not the same as being able to share the day with him.
Post # 9
My SO and I have been together since late 2005, this will be our 8th and hopefully final Valentine’s Day apart.
Skype dates are hard to be excited about but they can be fun. Our difficulty is just the time difference (we’re a bit under 9,000 miles apart) and our dates tend to be interrupted by other things. It just makes the times we are together that much more important and fun.
As for this Valentine’s Day, I’m having a “me” day and eating my favorite dinner, drinking my favorite wine, watching any sappy movie (or a movie with my favorite hot actor in it) I want and giving myself a manicure/pedicure. After all, it’s the last V-Day where I don’t have to consult anyone else on their plans and I don’t have to share the chocolate!
Post # 10
@Glasgowbound: I hope you do get to talk to him, Valentine’s Day or not, not getting to talk to your SO is a bummer.
@seabyme: On a boat?! That sounds awful (but I’m easily seasick) just made worse by not getting to talk to your SO. I’ll keep you both in my thoughts for a safe return!
@colorofmyheart: We do movie dates as often as possible, last night we watched the Westmister dog show together but we’ve been apart nearly 3 years so it’s hard not getting to “look forward” to holidays with FI and it seems to be getting harder.
@RoyalLime: Nah, we’re not putting more pressure on it because, thankfully, we do get to “see” eachother fairly often and I agree that it’s a Hallmark holiday – as menial as it would be if we were together is how big a gap it seems to leave since we’re apart.
@Hyperventilate: Part of the point of my post was being apart makes it feel like we do have to celebrate the date so thank you for the suggestion of “don’t” but not a lot of help.
@MissCalifornia: This sounds shitty but thank you, thank you! I forget to be thankful of my good fortunes, like that there is only a two hour time difference between us. I hope you get to sneak a little Skype in before bed.
@Zephi: Man, 8 years in and it sounds like you’ve got this down to a science! Have a great night, eating the whole box of chocolate and drinking that favorite wine. There’s something to be said for enjoying your last solo V-Day 😉
Post # 11
@humminbird: I just don’t understand why you have to. I mean, it’s a pretty conscious decision, right? If you don’t want to, don’t. You’ll both be tucked away with skype, right? I get peer pressure but, this is your relationship. If you’re both pretty cool with, “How about we just skype and talk and have a good ol time.” I don’t see the harm. At least, that’s how I handled it when I was in a LDR. We didn’t celebrate in “normal” ways, I guess you could put it. We’d say happy valentines day and go on our way. :
Post # 12
@humminbird: Sadly, skype is impossible – the connection he has there is just too bad. All I get is a jerky, pixelated image that might be him and distorted sound. But I’m hoping maybe he’ll call me – his iPhone’s international calling is pretty great 🙂
Post # 13
My boyfriend is going to be tour… so Valentine’s day for him is going to be on a tour bus with 7 other guys… fun fun. No facetime. No skype. I’m not really bothered. Going to have a girls night! I think my single lady friends are excited. 🙂
Post # 14
We’ll be watching “What Dreams May Come” on Skype together. (One of the saddest movies of all times)
It’s sad that we’re so far away and to make things worse, we’ll cry a bit watching the movie.
Distance is killing me!!!!
Post # 15
@MissCalifornia: If he has an iPhone, have him download Skype! Maybe you’ll be able to get a better picture/experience that way? Good luck!
Post # 16
@Zephi: Hmm, I’ll ask but I think he signed up for a really tiny data package while abroad since the rates are astronomical. Not sure if skype would count towards that or not. Thanks for the tip!