(Closed) 16wanting to elope

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: when to get married,
    now : (2 votes)
    3 %
    18 : (9 votes)
    14 %
    20 : (10 votes)
    16 %
    23 : (42 votes)
    67 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    3281 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    You should definitely wait a little bit. I was am not the same person I was when I was 16, so all judgments aside, the smart thing to do would be to wait.

    Post # 4
    Member
    83 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    if i married the man i was ‘in love with’ at 16 id be in a world of trouble.

     

    Post # 5
    Member
    6598 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I vote to wait a bit longer you are very young and in love – so why not wait!

    Enjoy what you have right now and grow up together. Get your education and your future set up and then get married.

    If you are truly in love there is no need to rush it!

    Post # 6
    Member
    2781 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I think if you even felt the need to write this post to ask if you should wait a little longer you’ve already answered your own question. There’s no harm in waiting just to make sure. And I also agree with Honeybear, I’m most definitely not the person I was at 16 and never would have made this choice then. 

    Post # 7
    Member
    545 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2009

    You should wait until youre parents okay this. You may know what love is, but if your families arent behind this one hundred percent then that will make for a rocky foundation for your marriage

    Post # 8
    Hostess
    18646 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I doubt you are going to get married without a parent’s permission.  Most states require you to be 17 or 18 to get married without a parent’s permission.  Are you two ready for this?  Do you have jobs that will support you?  If I ran off and got married at 16, my parents wouldn’t support me so I wouldn’t be expecting your parents continuing to let you live with them and pay for your food.  You will have an increadibly hard time finding a place to live since you have no credit (and can’t apply for credit until you are 18).  I am not saying that you aren’t in love, but you need to seriously think about it because it isn’t just getting married.  You need to then be able to support yourself and your spouse.

    Post # 9
    Member
    606 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Definitely wait – I am marrying the man I loved at 16 but that’s very unusual. If you love this person so much, definitely wait. 🙂

     

    Bella

    Post # 10
    Member
    11327 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    No need to wait until 22, but how about 18 at least? At that point it will be way easier for you each to get jobs and support yourselves.  Plus, your families will be more supportive after you’ve finished high school. I think that high school sweethearts getting married is very romantic… but its even more romantic to be able to make rent when you’re 30! 😉 

    Post # 11
    Member
    2404 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    wait…. if its really love, time is no object.

    I started dating my FI when I was 16, we were in love then. We are still in love now at 27…. we both grew up together and knew that we wanted to wait for marriage when we had our careers/life in order. 

    Post # 12
    Member
    4765 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

    Please wait. If I would have married the guy I thought I loved at 16, I would be miserable today. I think that it would be amazing if you two stayed together long enough to eventually get married, but there is no rush – you have plenty of time. And, as MissAsB said, 16 is very young to have to be supporting yourself – would you be up for that? Take some more time an enjoy being young – get married when you both have stable jobs and are finished with high school!

    Post # 13
    Member
    166 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    My knee jerk reaction is to tell you to wait, if for no other reason then just because legally you can’t get married until you’re 18. Sorry! Also, would you really want to upset your parents and grandparents this way? Is that any way to start a marriage, if you legally could anyway, with your parents and grandparents resenting your decision?

    In two years, when the law says you can get married I say go for it! There’s no hard and fast way to judge if you’re in love or not. There’s no hard and fast way to judge if you’re mature enough to get married. You’re the only one who knows if you’re in love enough to committ yourself to another person for the rest of your life and you’re the one to know if you’re mature enough to realize that you’ll be responsible to that person and you will be responsible to any children you have. You’re the one who knows- not us.

    Post # 14
    Member
    1854 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2009

    The question is: why do you want to get married now? If you two are meant to be together, you will still be together and in love in a couple of years, when your parents and grandparents could be involved and you’re able to celebrate your love and relationship with the ones close to you. Years down the road, you might regret not being able to share that special moment with them. All good things come to those who can wait.

    I would wait and enjoy life with your girlfriend and if you’re still together after all this time, the wedding will have been well worth the wait!

    Post # 16
    Hostess
    18646 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    PS – I got married to the person that I loved at 16 (even though we weren’t together at the time).  But I did understand that we needed to be able to support ourselves so we just enjoyed our time together until we got married last year and I feel so much better knowing that we have a home and money to be able to afford food, etc.

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