- 4 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
so the time is winding down until the big day and my fiance and i seem to be fighting more. most recently about some drama that happened at our twins first birthday party this weekend. and while everyone handled the situation wrong.
Anyway they reason i am worried is because i am afraid he is never going to stand up for me or defend me. and we when talk about it he tells me he isn’t going to if he doesn’t feel i need it or he needs to step in. prime example, at the party things where said him and i talked yes we were a little harsh to each other. 15 minutes later i was going from the kitchen to outside and he said something about going to cry some more and i told him to stop, then his dad decided to “scold” me (this is the best term i can think of) and my fiance just stood there and did nothing. Now i wasn’t asking him to start drama between his dad, i would of just appreciated him stepping in and saying “dad this isn’t the place or time”
and now we are still arguing and he cant understand that when i tell him no matter what is going he needs to stand up and defend me, even if i am not right at the time. again not saying to start drama but not to let anyone talk down to me. i would do the same and do the same.
This is the first time his dad has scold/talk down to me. last time was a couple months ago, because he read a conversation between my fiance and i where we were arguing about both of our families but of course he only took it as his and laid in to me one night, again my fiance did nothing, i mean i was doing everything i could to fight back the tears. and if i wasn’t raised better and i could carry two 9month old babies i would of said F you got up and left.
Im just so unsure what to do. i dint think he is ever going to stand up for me in something like that, he will never stand up to his dad i feel. and i don’t know if i can go through my life A. being talked down to by my FIL when something happens he doesn’t like, and B. my husband doing nothing to defend me or stand up for me.