- 7 years ago
- Wedding: June 2011
I have been friends with this girl since my freshman year of college… and I really should have known better than to ask her to be a bridesmaid… but I did.
She told me right when I asked her that she had a chiffon aqua dress. Perfect! Wear that.
Invites go out for my shower… which my mom hosted since it was in her hometown and mostly her family. Bridesmaid didn’t even RSVP to it to my mom, just told me she wasn’t going.
She never sent her wedding RSVP back, even though she got her invitation 3 weeks before the rest of the guests.
Somewhere along the way she tells me the dress she had didn’t fit.
I tell her I have a coupon for David’s if she wants to get one to match my other bridesmaid who had one from there already, aqua chiffon.
She tells me she ordered a dress, after I harassed her about it for about 3 weeks.
Yesterday I sent her a message telling her the rehearsal time and dinner plans, and she tells me she can’t be there.
Today she tells me she finally tried her dress on, and it was like 4 inches too small for her, so she went and got another one. The only one in her color they had in the store was Satin.
I say, ok.. .it is what it is, and ask why she can’t come to the rehearsal.
She tells me she just can’t get out of work in time to make it, and that her boyfriend has his kids that night.
Um, ok. You told me months ago it wouldn’t be a big deal.
I ask her if she’s made her room reservation (after reminding her earlier this week since I work where our wedding is and i didn’t see a reservation for her) and she says no, I thought maybe you would book it for me since you work there?
She then asked me what time she had to be there Saturday… ceremony is at 4, so 3:30 is plenty of time, right?
I told her, look… if it’s really becoming an issue for you getting here and you’d rather not – please just tell me. It’s fine… just let me know.
Ohhh, nono, of course I want to be there.
SO THEN DO THE STUFF I ASK! I haven’t asked much at ALL.
She told me she’d get back to me later.
I’m so annoyed that I really just don’t give a crap anymore! So now I’m trying to figure out how to say ‘Really, it’s ok. Don’t come since you’ve only been a disappointment and I don’t want to be ‘that’ bride pissed that you aren’t wearing the right dress or knowing what’s going to happen in the ceremony’ without sounding like a bridezilla biotch.