Post # 1
… or so I am told!
I just got lectured… and I mean LECTURED by a coworker about…wait for it… WEARING HEELED SHOES!
She said that if it were her and she was pregnant again there would be no way she would “endanger her baby all for the sake of fashion”. I took it in stride and laughed it off and said, “Well XXX, you know me and my shoes. I love me a good shoe, even with this massive bump.” Well apparently she did not find me amusing and reiterated that it was dangerous and selfish that its only another 4 months of my life and I should not be wearing heels just to “make myself feel better” because “its not all about me, you know.”
I just sort of shrugged my shoulders and said I’ll switch to flats when I’m ready and walked away… with steam pouring out of my ears.
So apparently I need to go to mommy prison for reckless endangerment of my unborn child due to improper shoewear according to Frumpy Mc-Fashion-Me-Not! Someone notify the authorities immediately for me!
Seriously… I’ll wear my damn heels if I want to, wench. And if you’re not careful, you might find this 7.5 pump wedged up your a@#!
Rant over! Carry on!
Post # 3
If she does it again, tell her to stop. If she does it a third time, report her to HR. It’s not professional and if you’re adhereing to the dress code and she’s not your supervisor it’s not for her to comment on. Once you tell her to stop, anything additional is harassment.
Post # 4
@the_newlymintedmrs-s17: WTF?!?!?!?! I’d tell her off for sure!
Post # 5
LOL @ Frumpy Mc-Fashion-Me-Not
Seriously though, just ignore her.
Post # 6
Ugh what a jerk. I feel you though, people have been up my ass for the shoes that I wear as well. They are shoes that I have always worn, it’s not like I just decided to try it out. My MIL loves chiming in on this one. DH tried telling me I couldn’t wear heels, he was going to hide them. I told him that was glorious and I would just buy more.
They’re shoes, not heroine.
There are so many worse things that you could be doing.
I would have gone off on her. I agree with telling HR if it happens again.
Post # 7
Yeah, Im 25 weeks and still wear my five inch pumps for events when I work…
Post # 8
Am I missing something? Is there even a danger or risk associated with wearing heels while pregnant?
Post # 9
omg that is rediculous. there is absolutely nothing wrong with wearing heels. wear them now while you can before the swelling comes!
Post # 10
Wow that’s bullshit.
If she does it again I’d say “Are we going to have a problem? And is this something we should talk with HR about?”
It’s YOUR body she has NO right to tell you what to do! Jesus it’s not like you were smoking a crack pipe in your office, you are just wearing heels!
Post # 11
@phillygirl629: My guess is it could make you more likely to fall?!?! But I don’t wear heels, so I am not entirely sure.
Eh, people think they know everything about what other people should be doing. I would just ignore her.
Post # 12
Now for me, heels are dangerous all the time, pregnant or not. But that is because i have the grace of a baby hippo. But for someone who is perfectly able to walk in heels, why would they be bad during pregnancy? Wow.
Post # 13
@the_newlymintedmrs-s17: WTF, since when is it endangering your fetus to wear heels? I’m 38 weeks today and still wear heels to work at least once a week. I’d seriously tell her to STFU or I’m reporting her to HR the way I’m feeling today haha.
FWIW, the days I have worn Uggs to work are the days I have slipped and fallen on ice – despite knowing it was icy and making every conscious effort not to fall!
Post # 14
@the_newlymintedmrs-s17: That is so incredibly crappy and kind of weird that she would even engage you with something like that. I would be really abrupt with her next time and tell her that she is making you feel uncomfortable and that you don’t appreciate her unsolicited, rude remarks. I mean driving a car is dangerous. Maybe you should stop that too? What a crazy person.
Post # 15
Tell her she needs to stop talking to you – she may be sick and you can’t risk picking up her germs and passing them to the baby. It’s better if she gives you wide berth for the duration of the pregnancy and infancy, really. “It’s not all about you, you know.”
OMG I’d be seeing red.
Post # 16
@bmo88: Thanks! I had a feeling that’s all it was but I wasn’t sure.