(Closed) +1s and Kids question AGAIN!

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Do I give Dear Friend a +1?
    No, he doesn't have an SO & knows plenty of people there so he can come on his own : (8 votes)
    33 %
    Yes, tell him his daugther can come; others will understand because of the travel factor : (3 votes)
    13 %
    Yes, BUT +1 must be an adult : (12 votes)
    50 %
    Other : (1 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    5670 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Since he is traveling so far, I would allow him a plus 1 but not allow him to bring a child.

    I would write something like:

    We are so thrilled to hear that you are coming! So who did you decided to bring to the wedding? I’m sure you (his daughters) name will miss you that weekend, but I’m sure she has great family that will help her ring in the new year.

    Post # 4
    Member
    1254 posts
    Bumble bee

    If I were in your situation, I’d stand my ground. If you decline others from bringing their children, then they will wonder about him and his daughter when they show up to your ceremony and reception. I would rather offend one than many.

    First, I would clarify who he was referring to as “we.” If it is his daughter, gently indicate that it is an adult-only reception with limited seating, then offer to provide him with baby-sitting services in the area. If the “we” is his friend, then it is up to you whether or not you want to add him to the guest list.

    Post # 5
    Member
    1645 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    Definitely start by clarifying the “we”. I would be firm, and explain that you aren’t able to accomodate any children except the bridal party, including even close family. I think I would allow an adult +1, if you can, since he is traveling a long distance.

    Post # 6
    Member
    2867 posts
    Sugar bee

    EDIT:  She’s acted up prior, I guess then I’d make it clear that he can only bring an adult guest.

    Post # 7
    Member
    384 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    Stand your ground on nicely informing him it is an adult only reception. And that if you broke the rule for him there woud be a lot of unhappy people as you have had to tell the same thing to everyone else.

    Because of the long distance however I would allow the +1

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