Post # 1
So me and FI have been together about 3 years and engaged for 5 months. About a year ago I had my father living with me temporarily due to hardship so during that time he was able to get to know my father. He has also met my mother and step-mother during frequent visits that they’ve made to see me or going to NY (where they live). Anyways, In the 3 years we’ve been together he has pretty much met all of my immediate and extended family to include cousins and such who live mostly in NY and NJ.
Most of FI’s family lives in SC or NC. I met one of his brothers once when we first started dating (they’re roommates) and I went to his apartment to see him. (I own a home so most weekends he’s at my house). So next week, we are driving to SC to meet his family for the 1st time for Thanksgiving and I’m just writing for encouragement. FI is somewhat of a mama’s boy (calls his mom at least twice a week, shares a phone line with her and other personal things that I won’t list). I’m fully aware of their relationship and some things bother me but FI is very committed to me so for the most part I have no problem with it.
Also, my son who’s 5 will be traveling with us. FI has raised my son since he was a baby so they’re inseparable and they claim each other as they’re own. When FI calls his mom he’s always bragging about Isaiah and how well he does in school and how smart and fun he is and such and such. His mother is usually very excited to hear about my son and myself so she seems like she may be pretty cool to meet.
Anyways, I’m just writing to share my experience and for encouragement. I’m praying and hoping we have a great time but you never know! LOL. Anyone have any crazy stories about meeting their IL’s for the 1st time?
Post # 2
nygirla: Firstly I want to say I think it is beautiful that your FI and DS have a wonderful realtionship and accept and love each other. It is also amazing that your FMIL is excited to meet your son and you, that seems like she will be very welcoming and accepting of both of you. Just pray about it and be open-minded and most importanly be yourself.
The first time I met my MIL and FML, I had been with my DH for only 6 months, however in our culture that is WAY too long to go without meets the parents. So I was very scared and just prayed that they would like me. I tried my best to be open to all of them (all his siblings were there as well) I’ll be honest it was a little strange but here we are over two years later, DH and I are married, have a baby and my in laws accept me as their own.
Be positive babe. Good Luck!
Post # 3
I am meeting mine in about a month for the first time, very nervous. We are getting married Next Dec so FI wanted us to meet before the wedding since we are eloping. Good luck!
Post # 4
eecuadrado: Thanks for the advice hun! I have a very down-to-earth, laid back personality but I’m also somewhat of an introvert so I think I’ll be ok. I also hear southern mothers have kind of that hospitality sense in a way so that’ll be cool.
sway0060: Thank you! Our wedding is in August so we wanted to make sure we met plenty time before the wedding so it didn’t just spring up. Lol
Post # 5
Don’t sweat it! I met my inlaw’s about 2 years into our relationship. We actually have a long distance relationship and so after a few visits she invited me to stay at her home when I would come to visit so that I saved money. I’m quite the introvert and just a year before going to visit my fiance for the first time I was still hiding behind my mothers back when strangers would try to talk with me lol! I was quite shy. Anyway things went well. Just be yourself! It will be a little awkward but keep conversation flowing on appropriate topics and perhaps ask your fiance ahead of time of any topics you should stay away from during conversation unless brought up by your fiance’s family. Good luck and remember to just be yourself! 🙂
Post # 6
Just be as polite and friendly as you are coming across on this thread. I’m sure they’ll love you.