To be honest, the first 2 months were pretty hard for me, because I expected it to happen right away too and when it didn’t, I also (unneccessarily) freaked the eff out. OMG! I am infertile! I will never have a baby without treatment! I literally cried when I got AF and was saying all these things to DH. Then, I got my act together and realized I was being a little silly. It is super frustrating when some people get pregnant their first try or when they are not trying at all, but it takes a while for many other perfectly normal, healthy couples to conceive too. I also know what you mean about knowing people who it took a really long time with pretty invasive treatment, but this is definitely not everyone.
I would highly recommend 2 books: 1: Taking Charge of Your Fertility. 2: The Impatient Woman’s Guide to Getting Pregnant. They are both quick and pretty easy reads and I have learned SO MUCH from them. I read TCOYF first, then read the Impatient book at the beginning of my 3rd cycle TTC, and it gave me a whole different perspective about the entire process.
Definitely come join the POAS boards and the Charters of the Hive boards, there is a serious wealth of knowledge and support from all the wonderful gals on here TTC. I have learned SO MUCH just from everyone on here in the past 2.5 months. I also really recommend charting, a lot of us use Fertility Friend, and I love it. I have the app on my phone, and I can access my info on there or just from the internet. It takes minimal effort, but eases my mind to know that I am doing all I can to get pregnant, and the rest is kind of up to fate/chance/luck/who knows. So I can relax (a little) knowing I am doing my part, DH is doing his part, and (we are both Christians) God will give us a baby when He thinks is the right time.
Hang in there and don’t give up hope yet! I think it gets better after a while once you realize that just because you have amazing timing, etc., getting pregnant is so completely out of your control that it’s just best to stay positive and keep at it…I mean, at least trying to make a baby doesn’t suck too bad! 😉 I also have been planning things to do when AF shows, like go out and drink a few, eat some sushi, and just enjoy the fact that I can still do those things for a little while longer (even though I SOOO would rather have a baby, I think I will miss those things a little!).
Good luck!! And please stick around, we would love to get to know you!
(Sorry I always tend to write A BUNCH on every post. I have a problem LOL).