Post # 1
i already own the shoes i want to wear, so should i bring them with me??
also, i’m going today in the afternoon, and my mom and Maid/Matron of Honor is coming with me…i didnt want too many ppl coming with me but now i’m thinking i should have at least invited FH’s mom….is it rude that i didnt? should i call and ask her last minute?? i feel bad now :/
ETA: FMIL only has 3 boys, no daughters….FH’s younger brother is engaged but i have the feeling Future Mother-In-Law doesnt like his fiance all that much so wont care to go with her dress shopping and the like….me and her have a good relationship so far and I guess i feel bad not inviting her the first time around because I feel she won’t have the experience otherwise….does that make sense?? :/
Post # 3
Since you already own the shoes, you should definitely bring them. And I don’t think you should feel bad about not inviting FH’s mom – I brought two people with me when I went dress shopping, and they provided the perfect amount of input. If you want FH’s mom to see your dress before the wedding, maybe you could invite her to a fitting. Or, if you don’t end up finding a dress today, maybe she could come to round 2 of shopping. Have fun!! And bring snacks – trying on a bunch of dresses can make you work up an appetite!
Post # 4
@redherring: yes, this was kinda my thinking as well, that 2 opinions would be enough….
one of the reasons i feel bad though is that Future Mother-In-Law only has 3 boys, no daughters….FH’s younger brother is engaged but i have the feeling Future Mother-In-Law doesnt like his fiance all that much so wont care to go with her dress shopping and the like….me and her have a good relationship so far and I guess i feel bad not inviting her the first time around because I feel she won’t have the experience otherwise….does that make sense?? :/
although i really don’t intend to buy anything today, so I could very well just invite her the second time i go….i still feel a bit guilty about it…
Post # 5
- Wedding: May 2011 - The Royal Park Hotel
I think it’s a great idea to bring the shoes with you, especially if they’re the ones you’re going to wear on the wedding day! Re: Future Mother-In-Law going dress shopping, unfortunately I think you might get a wide variety of responses depending on people’s situation. I didn’t invite my Future Mother-In-Law.
Post # 6
For sure bring your shoes if you have them. I tried dresses on with these awful shoes they had there in stock that were 2 sizes too big for me.
I only had my mother and my Maid/Matron of Honor with me whenever I went. I guess it depends on the relationship you have with her and if you’re willing to listen to her opinion about dresses. I only brought my mom and my Maid/Matron of Honor because I valued their opinion and they are both very important to me. The more people the more opinions.
Post # 7
@tartlet: very true… i editted to add a bit more background to see what ppl think… thanks!
Post # 9
I think you can bring the shoes to see how they look against the fabric and dress style and everything, but otherwise you’d really only need them at your fitting (to make sure the dress is the right length). Just trying dresses on, it doesn’t really matter if they’re too long or too short, because they can be altered after you buy.
I would invite his mom. I would, if she wasn’t in another province. I think it would make her feel really nice to at least be invited, even if she can’t come because of short notice. I assume most grooms’ mothers get left out of the wedding planning because it’s all on the bride, and it would be nice for her to know you thought of her.