(Closed) 1st time MOH with questions

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
18645 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

It really depends on how much the dress is and everything.  Has your friend already planned her bachelorette party?  Officially, the bridesmaids are supposed to be the one to plan that.  I think you will probably end up spending more than $1,000 if you have to travel to the bachelorette party and the wedding, plus the dress, shoes and whatever accessories she wants.

Post # 4
1220 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

How far are you going to be traveling?  Have you already priced out your plane tickets?  I was in an out of state wedding last year and with two sets of plane tickets and all the other stuff I was over 2k.

Post # 5
6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

it really just depends. traveling can be expensive, and since you’re making two trips (maybe another for the shower?), i wouldn’t be surprised if you’d have to spend more than that. with the dress, shoes, hair and make up, gifts, shower, and bachelorette party… it’s crazy!

Post # 6
1566 posts
Bumble bee

I don’t think there’s an average at all – depending on when and where the wedding is, how far you have to travel, if you can get good deals on hotels and tickets. I think you could go over $1000 with two sets of plane tickets and hotel rooms as well as the typical Maid/Matron of Honor expenses. If you’re limited in how much you can spend on the whole wedding, I would be upfront about that and maybe scale down some of the plans.

Post # 7
39 posts
  • Wedding: August 2009

It’s more important to determine if you CAN afford that, not if you SHOULD be affording that.

A pp said you would probably need to buy additional clothing items besides a dress and shoes but that’s not true. If the bride would like you to wear specific jewelry or something like that, she should provide it. She should also be nice enough to just say ‘everyone wear black shoes’ as everyone pretty much has black shoes. You really should just have to buy a dress. That’s probably going to be around $150.

Can you afford to fly to Vegas? If you’re posting here. I would imagine not. As a pp said, the bride should not be dictating this to you guys, you and the Bridesmaid or Best Man should be planning this. Can you plan something much more local? I would never spend $1000 on someone else’s wedding and since you are already traveling for the wedding, traveling for the bparty seems crazy.

Also, if the bride demands hair and make up, she pays for hair and makeup. GL!

Post # 8
8 posts
  • Wedding: April 2011

I’m going through the same thing. I’m planning my own wedding and preparing to be a Maid/Matron of Honor for a childhood friend. You need to think about the cost of travel, not to mention showers, engagement party for friends, things of that nature. It’s usually up to you to plan things like that.It can really add up!

Post # 9
169 posts
Blushing bee

I would say anywhere from $500-$2000 is appropriate. It also depends on how nice the wedding is and how good of a friend she is… 

Post # 10
570 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I would say you need to sit down and do a configuration on all the expenses: for instance airfare and hotel stays, your dress and alterations, shoes, hair and makeup, etc. And ask if you will be paying for all of this, or a portion of it, and just go from there. And yes, the pre wedding parties such as the bachelorette party and the bridal shower.

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