Post # 1
I am so honored to be my best friend’s maid of honor in her wedding next year. I haven’t been or attended weddings in a long time. With that being said, I aboslutely need advice. The bride recently moved to New York to be closer to her fiance. 5 of her bridesmaids live in California and 1 lives in Texas.
1. How do i approach the bridesmaids via email in meeting up to start planning?
2. Is it ok to have the bridal shower/bachelorette in one day or weekend?
3. What can I do to help the bride even though she lives out of state?
Post # 3
@moh2012: I love sending pictures of things I’m thinking about doing for the wedding to my Maid/Matron of Honor. She doesn’t live very close to me, but I can still use her as a sounding board.
As for the bach/bridal shower, I think its perfectly ok to do it all in one weekend.
Post # 4
@asscherlover: For the bridal shower, do I ask the bride if she is having friends and family or seperate showers? I know some have 1 big one while others have seperate showers thrown by different people such as the mother or future mother in law.
Post # 5
@moh2012: I would ask the bride about it. (I’m assuming May 5th is her wedding date.) She might not know yet. If you know her mom or her Future Mother-In-Law at all you can ask them if they were planning on hosting a shower, and if so offer to cohost it with them. I would also talk with the other bridesmaids about what their overall budget is for the bridal shower and bachelorette and brainstorm ideas (alone, with the other bridesmaids, with the bride or whoever) that are under budget. The other bridesmaids will thank you for that, especially since it sounds like the parties might not be near them and the wedding will probably be a destination wedding.
Its definitely ok (really ideal) to ask the bride for a list of guests for the bridal shower (and for the bachelorette if you think she might want friends who aren’t bridesmaids). And its ok to tell her that the guest list is too long for your budget (if it is, for example you can’t expect a 100 person shower). I would ask the bride to send a mass email to all of the bridesmaids to introduce everyone. You can copy the list minus the bride to have a planning email if you want anything to be a surprise. If you know everyone and have their contact info then you can send everyone an email yourself.
Post # 6
@asscherlover: thank you so much for your help!
Post # 7
Do you know the other bridesmaids? That’s a start. You should email them to introduce yourself and talk about your future plans. Also, you can be helpful from afar by asking the bride about her wedding plans. Good luck!