Post # 1
Two of my coworkers are pregnant. We’re having baby showers for them at work, the showers are a week apart. For both showers we have the option of buying a gift ourselves or putting in money towards a group gift.
For the first girl, who I’m closer to, I got her a gift just from me (2 infant gowns, 3 onesies, a pair of BabyLegs, and the Fisher Price seahorse).
For the second girl, I don’t know her very well. She started right before I went on maternity leave, which I returned from about a month ago.
I’m probalby over-thinking this, but would it seem “unfair” or “playing favorites” if I just contribute to the group gift for the second girl? The same people will be at both showers.
Post # 3
I think you’re over thinking it.. if you’re closer to the first girl it makes sense you would get her a more personal gift. I don’t think there is anything wrong with what you’re doing. 🙂
Post # 4
I think I’d feel the same as you, I like to treat people the same. Hopefully though the second girl will realise you just don’t know her that well. I don’t think I’d take it personally if it was me (but I’ve nver been a hormonal pregnant lady). I say go in for the group gift.
Post # 5
@abbyful: I don’t think you should feel bad at all, everyone at work is a grown up and realizes that some people will have closer friendships with one coworker than another. The new girl will probably be totally overwhelmed and happy to be thrown a work shower if she hasn’t been working there for long!
Post # 6
@abbyful: I think that is just fine. I would do the same if I were in your shoes. My work place does the same thing with showers.
Post # 7
If you’re really stressing over it, you could always give the girl who you’re closer with the gifts privately before the shower. But I really wouldn’t worry as I’m sure the other girl realizes how it is.
Post # 8
@DrTeeth: My thoughts too. Just give the girl you’re closer with her gifts privately before the shower.
Post # 9
I would just give the second girl a group gift, after all you don’t know her that well and i am sure she won’t feel left out since she doesn’t know you that well either. GL and have fun!
Post # 10
Thanks everyone for your input!
I finally just decided to buy both an individual gift, I just spent a less on the second girl, the amount I would have contributed to the group gift. Second girl is getting 2 infant gowns, Butt Paste (actually regifting this, I got it when I had my baby shower but can’t use it since we use cloth diaper), baby shampoo and lotion from her registry, and 2 sets of hangers from her registry.
I spent about twice as much on the first girl, but they are both getting a bag full of stuff, so it [hopefully] won’t seem too lop-sided.