Weddingbee boards

ok guys i've read alot of you'll post and i think i got u all beat. i know he has the ring he told me as much.you wanna know how long i think 2yrs.he says its not 2 yrs.but if it isnt it ndeffinately way over a year.can someone pls tell me why he hasnt given it to me. let me break this down for u guys. 6 months into our relationship he began talking marriage and how he wouldnt want a long engagement 6 months tops.fast forward 3 yrs and nothing.he is the best thing that has happen to nme next to my son.(not his dad) he looks out for mr the way a husband would.introduces me as his wife and come novemeber we'll be living togther for 2 yrs.i believe in living togther first.but take my advice ladies dont toit blindly.set milestones for when time should be up for cohabiting and get serious. so he is a great guy and all that.in 08 i believe he was going to suprise me at my suprise bday party but  nothing.i later found out he had the ring then.ok fine.ever since i found out he had the ring i just keep waiting .i thought it would be this year on my bday and i went and got a lovely dress.throughout the nite i realised nothing ws going to happy got a bit moody amd the nite didnt go so well. that weekend we got into a huge fight and i started telling him how he tricked me into believing it would be on the bday which he kinda hinted to.said he was sorry and that by the end of the yr we would deffinately be engaged.he even told me that he mentioned it to a co worker of mine we he was going to do it and  that if he was available he should pass by.after some time i was able to get passed it.fast forward to december thought it would happen christmas day nothing.he was going to buy me a diamond bracelet but the  clasp was broken so he didnt. i got emotional and he told me dont worry i will be very happy he promised.we ladies all kn the next significant date in december is old yrs nite.went to work that day .gotinto a lil arguement .resolved it.but u kn when sombody acts weird and moody and pissed.he was acing taht way .i knew somthng was up.anyways i decided during the day that no matter i wasnt going allow that to spoil my nite or new year.had a great time out withhim.nothing happened.went home round 4 got into bed pissed.work up next monring really upset .to make a longer story short we started talking obout how he lied yet again and that am sick of him dangling it in my face and that he hurt me and all that.left the house came back he was gone.i just started crying.called him told him i needed to talk to him .he probably though t i was going to end thgings.anyways he says i should believe in him and that he going to do the right thing just lets get our relationship back to how it was before all this. u must understand that he and i talkj about almost everything we ae rather close which is y i just cant understand whars  the hold up.he told me that when he went to get the ring in his safty deposit box he started choking on himjself and he couldnt do it. i love this man and i know he loves me but this last debacle has taken me to the edge.pls give advice ladies.i kn he is worth it but am not willing to wait my entire life.am 27 and he is 30.he really is a good man advice should i cut him more slack?

I wouldnt cut him anymore slack. 2 yrs is ridiculous for a man to hold on to an engagement ring. Are you sure that he actually has the ring? I really think you should read Mr. Bees 3 step plan to a proposal. And hes a man, so I'm sure he has some good advice. Besides, I'm in the process of implementing it myself... I'll let you know how it goes. Good Luck... , bc I know its not easy when you live with a SO and to add to that, you have a child. That complicates things more.

good luck! i agree -- try mr. bee's plan. it seems like a long time to hold on to a ring, hopefully everything works out for you two!