Post # 1
We’re having a hard time finding a venue/catering to fit our $6000 budget. Everywhere we start to like, we find problems with. We fell in love with one venue, only to find out that their caterer is $40-$60 per person. No thanks. Then we fell in love with another place, catering was affordable… But they dont have room for a DJ or band (which FI has insisted on having.) And then theres a few other places that I’ve sent multiple emails to and they simply wont write back, and I cant stand talking on the phone, plus I’m usually working during acceptable phone call times. So I’m just saying screw it to those places.
I finally found this one place that sounds absolutely perfect. They have the food/rental/djs/ect all included in the packages pricing. So we could get everything we need for a couple thousand. But its almost 2 hours away from where we live.
Would you be willing to drive that as a guest? Alex had the idea of maybe renting a greyhound bus for guests, so they wouldnt have to worry about it. Since we’d be under budget a bit, we could afford it. But would that just be weird? And then guests wouldnt be able to leave whenever they wanted, they’d have to stick around until the entire thing is over.
Post # 3
I think 2 hours is a doable drive. I’d suggest maybe looking into a room block nearby the venue for any guests who’d like the option of staying over, though. Personally, I would not take the bus (What if I wanted to leave early? What if I missed it? What if I’m running late? Too many what-ifs for me to risk it), but I would do a 2 hour drive, especially if there was a room block!
Post # 4
I would drive 2 hours for a wedding, definitely. The only thing I guess I would worry about for that is accomodation. If you’re having alcohol at your wedding, 2 hours back if you’ve been drinking is a no bueno. I’m thinking you would have to ask for a room block somewhere.
Post # 5
Mkay, my naiive is going to show, but what is a room block?
Post # 6
@allyfally: A room block is discounted rate at a local hotel. It’s a group booking (generally no charge to you!) and your guests get a promo code or link to use when booking to give them discounted rates. Almost all major hotels offer them!
Post # 7
@allyfally: Like a block of rooms at a hotel you hold that people can reserve if they want & choose not to drive home. Or I guess you could just put local hotels on the invite & leave it up to your guests.
Post # 9
I think 2 hours is doable. Assuming ceremony and reception were in one spot. I think I’s be a bit peeved to have to drive 30 min or whatever to a ceremony site then 2 hours to the reception
Post # 10
I wouldn’t bat an eye lid at driving 2 hours for a wedding.
Post # 11
Sorry, I’ll disagree. If the out of town place isn’t the home of the bride or groom, as a guest I’d feel sort of duped for having to go 2 hours away. And stay in a motel? nope, wouldn’t do it.
I say: have a simpler wedding reception, do something that you can afford in your town (and that assumes that most of your guests are in your town.)
Post # 12
I’d drive the 2 hours to the wedding and would probably find accomodation to stay the night. The only issue is if I couldn’t afford that – I’d then probably give the wedding a skip.
Post # 13
@FauxPas2012: Thank you for being honest. Unfortunately, all the cheap places here are quite ugly. lol. I just dont want to be thinking “oh this is so ugly” all day at my wedding. Theres several places we could easily afford, but FI finds something he doesnt like about all of them.
Post # 14
FH and I drove almost 5 hours for my friend’s wedding, but I was also her bridesmaid!
I wouldn’t have any qualms about driving 2 hours if you were a close friend or famiy member, but I think realistically you should expect a lot more declines than you would if the venue were local. People may not want to spend more on lodging or gas… or they may have random reasons they can’t be away from home for a full day or 2.
Post # 15
I think I would LOVE the bus! I’m with some pps, though. If the reception is going to be two hours away, the ceremony should be there, too!
Post # 16
@allyfally: it all depends on the couple for me….. Close friend or family for sure I’d drive. As pps suggest offering a block of rooms is something that’s a must!
I think many people with kids (especially young kids) there might be an issue….. That is if kids aren’t invited? Are kids allowed?
Are you inviting a lot of out of town guests or does everyone pretty much live where you are? If people are having to fly in from all over then it wouldn’t matter as much but if everyone is pretty in your hometown I’d prob try to find something closer if possible.
Also it’s going to be hard on you as a bride as well trying to plan especially if you are a DIYer bc it’s not like you can easily hop in the car and head over to the venue