Post # 1
I am so torn about what to do about my MOHs. I am having six girls in my wedding – four girls I’ve been friends with forever, my SIL (brother’s wife), and my FSIL.
I have already asked my FSIL to be a Maid of Honor – I love her to death that was an easy choice. Two of the four girls I grew up with are my BFFs, and it would be so hard to choose between them for a Matron of Honor. I think having a Matron and a Maid of Honor is fine, but would two Matrons AND a Maid be too much?
In my group of friends, we don’t do much in terms of helping the bride “plan” the wedding. Like…my expectations of them are really just to show up, and have a title of honor. I don’t expect them to be doing stuff for me from now until May.
To note, for the two BFFs, I was of course in both of their weddings, but because they both have sisters, they had an easy MOH choice.
What to do?? Opinions would be appreciated. Adding a poll, too.
Post # 3
I would just go with a Maid of Honor. All of those titles just get confusing.
Post # 4
i think just one MOH makes more sense, esp since you said it was an easy choice
Post # 5
One MOH is fine and just have the other 2 be BMs. There is really no difference role-wise between them except the marital status so if you were to have 2 matrons and 1 MOH you just divided your BMs (the other BMs may not be so happy about that) and the others may see that as favoritism. Keep it simple so there wont be additional fights like out of these girls who gets to stand nearest you (if you were 2 have 2 matrons and 1 MOH) or hold your bouquet or fix your train or hold your ring. Yes you can still divide these roles to make your FSIL and SIL job seem a bit more relevant if you want.
Post # 6
@kmb727: i have maid of honor since she is fi sis. i just asked my best friend whi is married to be my maid of honor and she did nit say yes she said she will talk with her husband. sure they actively try to have a baby but i feel lil hurt
Post # 7
Go with whatever you want! I have 2 sisters and each of them will have the title of Maid of Honor. I also wanted my best friend to be my Matron of Honor, so… I did! They are splitting duties, my sisters are planning and coordinating my bridal shower while my BFF is planning my bachelorette party. It all works out and everyone is happy with their roll in the wedding. In addition to my 3 leading ladies, I have 4 other bridesmaids. My fiance has only 1 Best man and 6 groomsmen. It’s your day, so do whatever you want!