- 6 years ago
- Wedding: May 2012
so this is self explanitory. my wedding is two months away and me and my maid of honor have been fighting about everything. she was sposed to plan my bachelorette party and ended up messaging my fi asking him to set stuff up for her. granted she has never been down to the area i live in but we told her what clubs we wanted to go to and that all she had to do was call the clubs and ask about getting in with out paying sep cover charges for everyone etc. specials stuff like that. Ok then there was an issue with the fact that her guest (whom i did not ok – this is all explained in an earlier post of mine) was not over 21 and so we should have it for ppl under 21 i said no i want everyone of age.
ok then it is a battle of the fact that i am not planning the bachelorette party for myself and i said i was thinking of getting a limo. she says “umm why r u going to get a limo how many clubs are you planning to go to” . ugh. ok but the real cherry on top is that she wants to bring her friend to the wedding. i understand that she does not want to come to fl alone, but i have told other ppl in my fam that they can not bring friends, that i really want this wedding to be close friends to us and family and that i have not myself invited some ppl down here because they are not close enough to me and i really want to keep this as small as possible because i am a full time student and we are paying for it ourselves. she flips. why cant they come and i said i just explained it to you. i said i will compromise they can come to everything else just not the bach party because they are under age, and not the wedding. that wasnt good enough for her. I asked her what is the real issue? you are not going to be alone if thats what you are worried about my other bridesmaid will be there alone too and i am not going to ignore you or something like that. i dont understand. She called me a few names i am not going to repeat and said i am done i do not want to be ur maid of honor anymore and i am not comming.
so…. now what do i do? i only have one bridesmaid now.
i really dont understand why bringing this guy was so important to her that she ruined a friendship over it . keep in mind that she is married and that this guy is her husbands brother in law. i just dont get it.
any advice? do you think i was in the wrong? i just dont think that my request was that unreasonable