Post # 1
Originally the FI and I had discussed waiting a year or so into our marriage to have children, but recently we have been kicking around the idea of starting right after the wedding. My FI was married prior and has a 3 year old son already from that relationship. His son spends the majority of his time living with us and so it’s not like we are enjoying each other child free now or anything like that.
Are you planning on having children right away? or How long are you planning on waiting?
Post # 3
Exact same situation over here! One thing we’re concerned about is having a huge age gap between the 3 year old and whatever kids we have.
Post # 4
Oh, I feel you. I’m 32 (will be 33 when we marry) and my FI is 35. We both agreed that while we would like to wait until we buy a home, that may not be biologically possible. I finally got him to agree to stop ‘not not’ trying after the wedding.
Yay for not not trying!
Post # 5
Me too!!! Even before we were engaged, I was all about having another child. I have a 5 soon to be 6 year old and he has a 4 year old that lives with her mother. We both want more kids, 1 maybe 2, and I can’t WAIT until after the wedding to start trying. I think he wants to wait a little bit, and really that might be best i guess. This is my second marriage, and the first one was over within a year (we shouldn’t have gotten married in the first place). So maybe waiting to be sure this is IT is the best way, but I truly feel he is the one for me and we can’t wait to start a family. Wow that was a long way to say we’re going to start trying immediately after the wedding. I’m 28 and would like to have one more by the time i’m 30. I’m really worried about having issues with conception – I have lots of scar tissue from a bad miscarriage rushed c-section when I was 6 months along several years ago, and also from the c section with my son. So i’m really concerned about whether or not we will even be able to get pg when it is time to start trying :(.
Post # 6
@MissMedic: That’s a lot of our reasoning too. I don’t want there to be a huge gap between the kids, but since I am 30 I feel like my step-son might feel left out. We’ve talked about having 2 so I’ll probably have them close which mean my SS will be at least 4-5 years older to begin with. Oh well. I am sure it will all work out.
Post # 7
I am ready to get prego immediatly. I will have just turned 37, so no time to waste. He has a little girl who is almost 7, so the age gap is already there. She really wants a little brother and is very excited for us to get married and give her one. :o)
We don’t do a whole lot in the way of prevention at the moment. While I wouldn’t be too upset if I did get pregnant now, the timing would not be so great for our crazy Vegas wedding.