- 3 years ago
- Wedding: October 2014
We have been *engaged* for almost a year, two more months we are walking down the aisle.
My FI is the sweetest man I can found on earlth that love me dearly, every single person in my life would tell me he is a catch from random stranger that I just met or close family/friends… but here is the thing…
Due to financial reason, I bought my engagement ring a year ago, bought our wedding bands which I’m ok with. (we, or I should say things changed, his financial situation is a lot better now)….
All I asked is a proper proposal from him, I keep waiting and waiting and knowing the ring was there, still no proposal… so i blew it up RIGHT before the day he was going to proposed to me on our anniversary …… because I blew it up, nothing happened but he still *proposed* to me. I refused to wear the ring that night but he told me he want to have the ring on my finger on that day becasue our anniversary have special meaning to him.
Move forward, I told him afterward a formal proposal is critical me…and that’s all I asked from him…he promised he will……..
9 months passed away, lots of happened, new job for him, and we suddenly have to purchase half of his family house together, get busy with wedding planning…. and I casually remind him last month… told him now everything settled, but he still have a promise he forgot… and he asked me what it is, sure enough, he forgot he promised he will give me a formal proposal…………. one month fast forward til’ today, I’m picking up the marriage license after work for the church
I’m the happiest woman lately, everything are just smooth but just the thought that he never proposed to me and I’m picking up the marriage license alone bring tears to my eyes…. I know it’s our money now, we are joint everything, and I’m appreciated that we will have a decent house in City area becasue of him and he pay me back or not for the ring do not matter anymore becuase it’s “our money”
but……. it still bing tears to my eyes that he never formally ask me the question while at the same time his BFF recently got engaged, and people ask them non stop about their stories………….and I have nothign to say to others because we do not have one
Bees, help me here, help me forgot about it entirely and focus on the good thing and the wedding coming up. Trust me, he is very sweet to me. Just bought me a new car, we are moving in together soon, and let me do whatever I want with our wedding……very caring and take care of me
but……..I just never have the same experiences like all the bees here, my FI choose the e-ring for me or my FI bought it for me or my FI told me how much he loves me and knee down for me……
none of that will happen I guess.. I Just text him and told him maybe I should just accept the fact that he will never do it…… 🙁