- 3 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
Before I got married someone told me that the day would be a blur. They were right! I have tons of vivid memories during that day, but the days a whole goes by so fast.
My first piece of advice is for the actual day of your ceremony:
My advice to all brides and grooms: Take a moment for yourselves. Take a moment to take it all in.
My husband I and I had a wedding of about 115 people, a photographer and videographer. Your wedding day is an entire day of being “on”. It’s like you are and actor for a movie or play and the camera never turns off. All of your guests want to talk to you, your photographer (just doing their job) is always there. My biggest recommendation is this:
Grab your new husband/wife go find a quiet corner where you wont be easily spotted. (you might consider telling people you have to use the restroom so that you can make a free escape and return less noticed.) Just stand there and take it all in. Give your SO a hug and a real kiss. Tell them you love them. Look at all your guest and the room. Take it all in, the smiles, the laughter, the music, the dancing. You only get to have THIS day once, and it goes by so, so fast.
By the end of the night my husband and I were so tired. When the reception wound down and we left, the best part was the quiet, just the two of us. No photographer telling us to kiss for a photo, no one trying to get our attention. We got to our hotel room, sat down and he just held me for a moment.
Those short periods of time where it was just us talking and smiling were amazing.
Second piece of advice: Honeymoon!
If you have the option wait a day or two to leave. We had our wedding on a Sunday and we didnt leave for Hawaii until Wednesday morning. I was so happy to have a day or two to catch my breath, finish packing, and to just see our family.
The time allowed us to not worry too much about packing for our trip before the wedding. It allowed us to deposit the checks and cash we were given at the wedding into an account so it wasnt laying around. We also took some time to see our parents and some friends and talk about the wedding or our plans. We took a couple days to unwind from the craziness of the day. It made all of our traveling less stressful so we could really enjoy every moment.