Post # 1
My fiancé proposed at the end of May right before moving cross country for a job (I’m following in 2 weeks). He does not have a lot of money right now so instead of holding out to get me a dream ring he got me a $700 ring off amazon that is supposed to be upgraded later. It wasn’t what we had talked about and it has several inclusions, is not cut well, and the band is uneven and already yellowing. The original plan was to propose with his grandmother’s ring but we could not find it. A week after he had proposed/moved his mother found his grandmother’s ring. It’s beautiful and exactly what I want! The band is a little more intricate. He says he wants whatever makes me happy, but I don’t want to offend him by telling him I want to only wear his grandmother’s and turn his into a necklace, even though his family and my family support that idea. Thoughts?? Am I terrible for wanting his grandmother’s? (Princess cut was his purchase, round is his grandmother’s)
Post # 2
grandmother’s ring all the way…that was his original choice afterall…
Post # 3
Grandmothers ring forsure
Post # 4
I think the family would be pleased that his gradnmother’s ring is your choice and you want to wear it. If he had any issues about you not wearing the original one, he wouldn’t have offered his Grandmother’s. I say go with Gradma’s ring.
Post # 5
hwo0801: grandma’s ring. The upgrade came early!!
Post # 6
I say grandmother’s ring. It is what he originally wanted to give you and I think is an honor to be able to pass down. Plus, who doesn’t like the idea of a diamond necklace. (maybe you could wear it the day of the wedding.)
Post # 7
You are being ridiculously silly.
You BOTH agreed that you would upgrade later, you BOTH knew that the original plan was to use his grandmother’s ring. Now you’VE got her ring and are afraid he’ll be hurt if you use it? Don’t be so foolish. He always knew you would use his grandmother’s ring and I bet he is thrilled to see that amazingly beautiful piece of family history sitting on your finger.
Post # 8
Thank you bees! I think I was just feeling a tad guilty because he has mentioned on more than one occasion how he wished he hadn’t spent the $700 (which again, is a lot for him right now) and he has not seen his grandmother’s ring in person so he doesn’t understand how vastly different the two rings are in quality!
Post # 9
but remember that $700 isn’t going to waste if you are still going to wear it as another piece of jewellery 🙂 that way you won’t lose any sentiment that you have with it seeing as it’s the stone he proposed with
Post # 10
This is the only easy ” I want another ring” solution!!! His family will be pleased (hopefully, sounds like it), he will most likely be pleased etc. I say just tell him you love what he picked but you love his Grandma’s ring more, and it means a lot and he’ll understand. I’d turn his ring into a necklace or something. 🙂
If you’re not sentimental, you could try and sell his ring if he’s worried about the money (I’d be kicking myself too if I were him)! Or you could keep it as a right hand ring or something?
Post # 11
Grandmother’s ring, for sure. Can he return the Amazon ring for a refund?
Post # 12
Lucky girl! Definitely go with the Grandma’s ring if you can! 🙂
Post # 13
- Wedding: August 2014 - Monponsett Inn
Hands down, the grandmother’s ring
Post # 14
holy wow, that heirloom is gorgeous!! i agree with PP, wear the grandmother’s ring as your e-ring, since it is what he wanted to give you originally.
I love the idea of making the Amazon solitaire into another piece of jewelry. necklace is a cool idea; have you considered making it a right hand ring? then you could even alternate wearing them if you wanted.
i pulled some semi-mounts that would make lovely right hand rings, at various price points (as i know $700 already seems like a lot):
most expensive, at just under $500
this one is 330, with sapphires:
a kite setting for 188:
and then these two are sterling, under 80:
but regardless what you end up doing with the princess cut, wear that heirloom!
Post # 15
- Wedding: October 2014 - Cape May
Easy peasy! Wear his grandmother’s ring as planned and use the first ring as a stand in for gym, running errands, etc. Money isn’t wasted and you could always wear it as a right hand ring as well.