Post # 1
I live in the Florida Keys, which is where my FI is from and where we are getting married. I was born and raised (through college) in Ohio, which is where all of my family, friends and BM’s still are. A friend of my FMIL is throwing me a shower in the Keys and my BMs and my mom are throwing me one in Ohio. I know that the Ohio guests won’t be able to make it to the Keys shower and the Keys guests won’t be able to make it to the Ohio shower, but do I still need to invite all the women who are invited to the wedding to both showers?
Post # 3
I’d invite the people who are local to the respective shower, then the bridal party and family to both, making it clear that they are not obligated to go to both.
Post # 4
I invited my wedding party to all the showers and my mom and mil were invited to all, but since each side of the family threw a shower, we didn’t overlap the guest list any more than that.
I think in general people wouldn’t be able to attend two showers!
Post # 5
I also had two showers – one in CA and one in NYC. I only invited people from the respective states. I didn’t want to create an impression that they were somehow obligated to come, and it was very much understood that the CA shower for CA people and the NY shower was for East Coast people.
Post # 6
My sister is getting married/lives in Norfolk, VA. However, all of our family is in SC. Soooo…I am having one of her BMs do a shower in Norfolk, and I will be doing a shower for her SC family and friends in SC. I am going to let my sister do the guestlist since she will have a better idea of who will want to attend which shower.
Post # 7
Could you work with both of the people who are throwing your showers to put together one invitation with both of the dates and locations listed? Then you can get the invites out to everyone at the same time and everyone will be kept into the loop as to which shower they can attend without feeling left out.