Post # 1
To avoid killing each other….I’m thinking about having two weddings. My groom wants this large 150+ppl wedding with the fluffy marshmallow dress, formal dinner, events blah blah blah. Neither of us have ever been married, we are both the youngest and we’re in our mid 30’s so we’ve collected quite a few important ppl in our lives. So I get it. However that is not my dream wedding.
I want something on the water, serene, intimate and peaceful.Because our views are so different he’s planning the wedding, and I’m planning the honeymoon. We’re ok with that, since I didn’t really want a big one & he deserves to have his dreams come true too.
HOWEVER I still want something that resembles my dream too. I just have a mental picture of us under an arch on the gazebo. In all white barefoot, with the water behind us.
Is it too much to drag him through this. Is that too over the top? Will the resort even do it? Or should I just take the loss and move on?
Post # 3
@BrideofGroomzilla: What if you did that for a vow renewal five or ten years from now?
Post # 4
@BrideofGroomzilla: I think its a great idea to do the little ceremony on your honeymoon, if you’re doing the big wedding for him why would it be too much trouble for him to do the simple one for you? Its not like you’re asking to have 150 people flown there and a giant expense, just a simple cermeony of the two of you affirming the promise. The renewal doesn’t have to be 5 or 10 years later, a week, a day or however long until the honeymoon is more than good enough to have the simple intimate moment you want 🙂
Post # 5
@suburbian: I’ve thought of that, and I think in 5-10 years it will be a moot point. I mean after all don’t most of our childhood dreams take a backseat after a bit, and get replaced with other things. So I’m thinking after kids, and settling into everyday life, it would just take a back seat.
Post # 6
I think it is awesome that guys are open to compromise… and not just flatly denying the other their wishes.
Vow Renewal can happen any time. Including on the Honeymoon… now, or 5 – 10 years from now if you like.
The really cool thing about a Vow Renewal on your Honeymoon is you get to have the ceremony you have in mind… without the EXCESSIVE COST
Destination Weddings / Elopements in paradise typically cost a lot of money… (target audience)… Vow Renewals not so much
Infact if you shop around (GOOGLE for resources… such as “How Do I Marry in ___” … Look at the Official Tourism Websites for Wedding etc info … and read up here on WBee… or ask Questions on TripAdvisor’s Forums) you can probably find a really good DIY deal if the local resorts are asking for an arm & a leg
Example, Mr TTR and I married in Key West Florida. The going rate at our resort was $ 2000. We found someone to do it for us locally for around $ 300. If it had been a Vow Renewal and not a Wedding it would have been even cheaper (no need for all the legalities / certifications then)
Hope this helps,
PS… I am an Encore Bride… first time round I had the BIG White Pouffy Family Wedding… and it was nice. This time round, we had the Barefoot Beach “just the 2 of us” Elopement in Paradise. Both experiences were good… this way tho waaay more less stressful (no family drama)… and very relaxing, and also super emotional… I cried when I said my Vows to Mr TTR… the day was just soooo darn wonderful.
Post # 7
@TTR we decided to go forward with the beach ceremony. It’s going to be very small. small vows and a photographer. We’re going to do it the day after we arrive on our honeymoon. He was suprisingly accommodating toward this….