Post # 1
Just wondering if anyone else is 20 something and getting married again?? I posted something similar to this before the board makeover and it wasnt taken well.. hopefully with this reshuffle i’ll have gotten it right!
I’m 21 with a 2 year old daughter and i’m personally having alot of trouble deciding if i want my dad to give me away or not. I feel like if i took that away from him, i wouldnt have anything else special with him. But in his place….. I feel like its really my daughter who has the right to “give” me away because my dad gave me away once… I keep going back and forth.. just wondering if anyone else was thinking about this or encountering this problem.
Post # 3
How does your dad feel about this… does he want to give you away again?
I’d think that most dads would understand if you had your daughter give you away, especially if he already gave you away at an earlier wedding?
Post # 4
@KB…I am not an encore bride but I do have a 12 year old daughter. I basically inserted her into the spaces traditionally reserved for a father. For example, my FI asked my daughter for my hand in marriage. To me, this was the right way to do it since I have been out of my parents house since college and it was really my daughter who would have to welcome FI into her life, less so my parents. In addition, it will be my daughter “giving me away” at the JP..not my father.
My dad has 5 girls, 4 of which (myself included) are unmarried. I figure he will have other opportunities to walk his daughters down the aisle while my daughter will only have 1 mom.
Post # 5
Dad hasnt said either way. but he is so excited about THIS wedding and so much more involved this time around that its hard not to think that he would want to be involved in the traditional ways
Post # 6
If he is really excited, I say let him walk you down the aisle. Why don’t you have your dad walk on one side and your daughter on the other?
Post # 7
Since your daughter walking you down is aisle is important to you…I think you should just let your dad and daughter walk you down the aisle…I think that would be really cute and special….
Post # 8
I eloped the first time and have been living on my own with my children for almost 10 years. So when I got remarried this summer I really struggled with my dad “giving me away”. In the end, I knew it meant a lot to him, so I had both of my parents do it. Since your daughter is so little, like ejs4y8 said, why don’t you have both of them walk you down?
Post # 9
Can both your dad and daughter walk you down the isle and give you away together?
Post # 10
Especially as you’re flicking back and forth between the two I think both of them “giving” you away would be a great thing. It’ll also probably be less scary and stressful for your daughter as she’ll be quite young at the time of your wedding, she can have her grandpa there with her.
Post # 11
i can have them both… and if i do i want my daughter walking me to be a surprise… so how do i acknowledge her in the program? or do i?
Also… because i’m keeping her walking me a secret i’m getting alot of crap from outside sources for not making her my flower girl and i dont know how to explain it without giving it away…
Maybe you ladies can ask your dads… would he be hurt if they both walked and not just him? He is excited and i appreciate it but i almost feel awkward being given away “again” ya know? See…. this is why i go back and forth…
Post # 12
I don’t think that he would be upset that your daughter is walking you. Plus since she is so young, she might need a little bit of wrangling to get her to walk properly so you might need the two of you!
Post # 13
- Wedding: September 2009 - City Hall
I’m 20-something and an encore. I didnt have my dad give me away… it seemed odd (especially with our very small wedding). So instead we had our dads be the witnesses, so they signed the license afterward.
I think if you want your dad to give you away though, you need to ask him how he feels about it. Dads can sometimes be hard to talk to, but it’s an important thing to ask. Since your daughter is so young, maybe your dad can carry her down the aisle (with you)? That’d be an option I’d consider.
Post # 14
You should talk to your dad, and I like the option of them both walking you down the aisle. :] And also, if people give you crap, just say you’ve got a little surprise in stored and SMILE.
Post # 15
I’m not engaged yet (my BF says he’s my pre-fiance…) However I am divorced, hopefully will be engaged soon, and I’m 24. I dont have kids, so I dont have a ton of advice however I do think your dad should get some role in the wedding. It sounds like hes excited and happyf or you. Maybe they can both give you away.
Post # 16
What about having your daughter be your maid of honor and have dad walk you down the aisle? That way she’s still in high importance, right there next to you, and dad still gets his moment?