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I just turned 23 when we got engaged, and will be 25 when we get married, and have never been asked this question.
I'm amazed at all these people who get asked this. To me young is like 20 and under, but I think 21 and over is around the time that a lot of couple start thinking about marriage. Maybe it's regional though?
Yep. It's very frustrating. Although I don't mind hearing "wow, so young!" as opposed to "wow, you must be really sure!" Um, yes! I am really sure. Thanks for asking.
Oh well. Comes with the territory I guess. It's kinda funny as lots of my friends were asking me where the ring was when FH and I started dating and I was 19 then! For some reason it didn't matter then! :P
@Ryansgirl:I'm not sure if it's regional or not I live up in Maine and I have 4 friends all 21-25 who are getting married and it's been happening to all us! It's just strange because it's random women who keep saying this.
Yup I am 23 and I get it all the time! I really don't think 23 is young lol I mean its younger but I am not 16! What annoys me the most are the women who like to tell me how they will never let their daughters get married untill they are "accomplished" and "have seen the world". Uh WTF I did graduate college, I did graduate my cosmetology course and yes I am accomplished. Does getting married stop you from seeing the world or being a better person? I don't think so! LOL sorry this turned into a major rant!
@JennyChicago Definitely hate that! So I'm 24 (23 at time of engagement) that doesn't mean I'm not going to pursue my dreams for my future just because I'm getting married! Urgh. Besides, isn't being a good wife and a good homekeeper just as important to some girls who want to do that? People sometimes have very narrow perceptions of the world.
I turned 25 a week after our wedding, and I'm still getting it! In the last people, I've gotten several comments. It is so weird!
I was 21 when I got married. I got the 'so young' comments from some people but I just ignored it. We waited until after we graduated college and were responsible enough to purchase our own home while we were engaged.
@jedcaj - I know that from living in two major cities in Canada, my friends from out west are way more focused on finishing school, establishing their careers etc before they are even thinking about marriage. Now that I live in the "praries" it seems like people here get married a lot younger :) whether they've finished school and got their careers going or not.
@Ryansgirl: well that's what makes me so annoyed is that both my fi and I have established careers, and already have a house, along with a little family of two cats and dog. So it's just annoying that people are so quick to judge when they know nothing about our life. lol I just think you should get married when your in love! Regardless of what age it is!!!!!! Nice to see all you girls have dealt with same remarks!!
I will be 1 month shy of 24 when we get married but the only time I ever got this comment was from creepy men at my bachelorette party!!
I was 18 when we got engaged and eventhough I haven't heard anything but "about time!" from my family and his, I've heard A LOT from people who have never met me before...it like yes I'm obviously young and yes I'm engaged, get over it!
I got married at 23 but hardly got it. Maybe cuz i'm tall and scary and wear sunglasses all the time. 
I haven't heard that. It may be because FH and I have dated since we were 17. Alot of people have said "It's about time" and I was like "We are only 23!" . lol
I'm 21 and will be 22 when we get married and mostly what I hear is from people my own age (not friends-just people I meet) going on and on about how they would never get married this young and they want to have a life and not be tied down. It's frustrating because without fail they try to tack on a super insincere "but I'm sure it's fine for you" line at the end. Seriously?
This happened to me when we first got engaged and I found it really upsetting. I had a really hard time dealing with all the people who would make comments about how young I was (20). It was annoying because everyone who truly mattered (parents, family, closest friends) were happy for us, but there were still so many other people who would voice their opinion, but then say congrats. Overall, it kind of took away from the whole experience. I actually had someone tell me "at least you have time to think about it and make sure" when I told them that the wedding would be in July 2011.
What's more frustrating is that we are ready to get married - I graduate a few months before the wedding, my FI is a doctor, we have a house together, financially we are independent and we love each other. Some people will always feel the need to voice their little opinion - whether warranted or not.
We don't get the "you're so young" thing at all and we're 24. We identify with an older set, though. He's graduated from medical school and I've been in the workforce for a few years prior to law school.
people have a right to their opinion but they don't need to share it so rudely! they would never say to a bride they considered older than average wow you're so old
I'm 25 and have only been asked a handful of times. Honestly it doesn't bother me at all. I'm not going to waste my time caring what negative people think about me.
From what I've gathered, people either say, "You're so young!" or they say, "It's about time!" or something like that. People will always have a comment one way or the other. Interestingly, now that I am married, I don't get any comments. I guess they think its too late to warn me? Haha!
We've gotten both "you're so young" AND "it's about time" - luckily the "it's about time" came from family and friends, and the annoying "you're so young" has come for fellow students at our university or people we don't know very well.
Well finally has calmed down. We were 21 & 22 when we were married and the people EX's lol were all about are you sure thats what you wanna do. It went on that way through the whole engagement. Even from the family members that were asking before hand when were we gonna tie the knot. Then the day of the wedding nothing but tears and hugs. Funny how an i do a ring and a kiss changes the minds of dozens at once.lol
I was photographing a wedding, and I kid you not, people were yelling "Congrats!" and "You're so young!!" from cars at the couple. Seriously? THey were 28 and had been together for 8 1/2 years, but look young. Back up off of it, people :-). But, where I live (Boston) the average age for marriage is almost 29, so I can see people making comments about younger brides in New England. But yelling them from cars? That's a little much....!
I was 25 when we got engaged and I just turned 26... Fi is 32...so he doesnt get the comment....but I get it ALL THE TIME....
I dont think people realize how irritating it is... I wonder if they realizr they are indirectly telling us that we are making a bad decision.. its like as if they are saying "really ? this is what you want to do? Eekk... "
Bugger off ! The way I see it I get to have that many more years with my husband :)
I'm 25 and I haven't gotten the "you're so young" line at all, which I guess is doubly odd since I have a baby face and got carded at an R rated movie this summer.
I've never gotten any of these comments, fortunately. I was 26 when we got enagaged, we'd been dating for 4.5 years and living together for about 2.
lol I'm sorry but I had to laugh at that comment - why do people treat marriage as if you're dying? "Wow... so young!" seems like something I would say when watching the news and a teenager is killed in a car accident or a gang shooting - not to someone getting married! People need to replace their rude comments with "Congrats on finding the perfect one!"
I just wrote a post yesterday about how a complete stranger asked me "Why did you get married so early" lol I'm still not sure how to answer this.. I just said "It didn't seem early to us!"
I get it all of the time, and I am about to be 28 next month!
I have had engaged people younger than me say it too.
I am sick of hearing about how young I am. My best friend is getting married next Saturday (she is 22) and yesterday was her hair and makeup trial. The lady doing her hair keep going on and on about how young we both were and even told my friend that she shouldn't get married. Then reassured my friend that divorce is a way out of it. What??? Who goes into a marriage thinking that my marriage will end it divorce? I was disgusted that the hair stylist who we are paying to do our hair would suggest to her to not get married.
Haha I totally feel the pain, ladies.
I worked at a grocery store when he and I first got engaged, and so many of my regular customers told me to wait or I would regret it! Um, I beg to differ! I'm almost 23 and I've been on my own since I was 18, not to mention the fact that my fiance was my best friend before we got together two years ago. I think I'm old enough to make decisions, thank you very much!
It's just funny because people assume you have no idea what you are getting into!
Haha I totally feel the pain, ladies.
I worked at a grocery store when he and I first got engaged, and so many of my regular customers told me to wait or I would regret it! Um, I beg to differ! I'm almost 23 and I've been on my own since I was 18, not to mention the fact that my fiance was my best friend before we got together two years ago. I think I'm old enough to make decisions, thank you very much!
It's just funny because people assume you have no idea what you are getting into!
Really? I was barely 20 (3 days over) when I got engaged, and everyone I talked to was so supportive. The only person who asked anything different was my pastor, who took two seconds to go, "Are you sure this is what you want to do?" and right after he was all "I'M JOKING! SOOOO EXCITED FOR YOU GUYS!"
It might have to do with the fact that I look older than I am to people that don't know me (people always guess I'm 25+), and the people who do know me know us as a couple and understand that we're ready for this.
@Angela83: Ha! I totally get carded, too. People ask if I'm old enough for my job! I will be 25 when I get married, and like others here, most of my friends are my age or older. I will have a graduate degree and will have been in the workforce (along with my FH) for several years at the time of our marriage. My parents had a real problem with this - and they were married at the exact same ages but reverse bride/groom (I'll be 25, my FH will be 26). Your chances of getting divorced (statistically! I know this isn't always the case) are cut in half if you wait until you are 25. We plan on waiting a few years to have kids, but with the average age of the bride in America being 27 and more and more of my friends focusing on careers, its hard to believe I would have been considered an "old maid" less than a generation ago!
@kms31690 - OMG that is APPAULING! I would go elsewhere, and send an angry letter to the salon owner. So rude and so unprofessional!
@hermitcrab: That's funny! I turned 25 the week after my wedding, too.
Tons of people have said things like this to me...friends, strangers, even some vendors!! A makeup artist at one of my trials was making fun of me for settling down so young.
I am older (29) but my fiance is 25...he will be 26 when we get married. His parents used to go on and on and on about him being too young...but they have come to accept it now, somewhat.
I'm 24 and so is fiance. I've never gotten the "you're too young" talk.
Maybe people figure since we're not getting married until 2012, it's not something worth mentioning? But, it's still early in the engagement phase for us (4 months) so maybe it will start coming up when I talk to vendors and get more serious about planning.
I am 23 and the FI will be 22 on our wedding day. We have received the "you're so young" comment mostly from strangers.. the lady at the tuxedo shop, customers at work..
And from the family it's the "it's about time!" comments because we've been dating for over three years & everyone else in my family got engaged after just a year.
Oh well, I'm happy :)
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So today one of my best friends and I were getting pedis, and this woman sitting next to my friend goes to her your ring is beautiful when are you getting married, and then looks at me and goes my gosh your ring is beautiful when are you getting married. So we answered she's is getting married june 2011 and I am Oct this year. The woman then starts grilling us about if we have finished school, and graduated from college. Then her last line before she got up and left was my goodness so young!!!! We both just looked at each other and started laughing, my friend is going to be 23 when she gets married and I 22. We both think it's so funny/almost annoying how many women are so forthcoming with their judgements on how old we should be when we get married.
Any of you ladies getting annoyed with that line yet from complete strangers???????