Post # 1
So FI’s nephew will be 22, closer to 23 months old when we get married. He is a huge part of our lives and we would very much like to include him in the ceremony in some way. Generally speaking he’s a very happy, well behaved people loving little boy, but of course with a child so young anything can go wrong.
He will be the only child in the ceremony – no other youngins in the family to be flower girls or ring bearers – so in what way could we include him? His mom is not a bridesmaid, but should she or one of the other ‘maids maybe walk with him? Should he hold something? I don’t want to overwhelm him or present him with an impossible task, so maybe something simple and cute?
I’m planning on seeing how he is the week/day of before making the final decision, because if he’s not in a good mood or too scared of course I won’t make him do anything. But I would like some ideas! 🙂
Post # 3
I’ve seen kids that age get rolled down the aisle in a wagon, but you’d need a slightly older kid to pull him. It seems a little young to me to walk down alone…maybe have a BM walk him
Post # 4
@MrsCreeToBe: Could you make him the ring bearer? You could put fake rings on the pillow so you don’t have to worry about something happening to them. I’m having four flower girls between 18 months and 3 1/2. My sister, the mother of two of the girls, is going to heard them down the aisle. I think it’s great to include kids in the ceremony, as long as you’re ok with the possibility that they’ll see all of the people looking at them and won’t want to walk down the aisle, or will have a melt down on their way.
Post # 5
Yeah we are having two 18 month olds in the wedding, and their parents have instructions just to go get them if necessary. My brother is definitely walking his daughter down and my FMIL is walking her grandson either way, but their moms will be available in case of emergency.
Post # 6
Our ring bearer was 13 months! He was pretty advanced but he did great. His mom was at the back and his dad was a gm at the front, mom walked around the side. And got him and sat on the end of the second row.
Post # 7
@MrsCreeToBe: Even if his mom isn’t a BM, there’s no problem with having her walk him. I was at a wedding once where they FG was incredibly shy, and walked down with her mother (bride’s SIL). I think it works out a little better than having a BM walk him down, because then she can walk him to the front, and he can stay with her at her seat as opposed to being passed off by a BM or having to stand up during the entire ceremony.
Post # 8
My nephew was 18 months and did an amazing job! Ask his parents to practice with him and give him an incentive(in my nephews case raisins) so he know when he reaches the front he gets something. We practiced all the time with him and the other kids, especially at parties where there were lots of people watching just so they wouldn’t get nervous. The kids all “walked” at our bridal shower. It was so cute!