Post # 1
So for my first marriage we had a big wedding planned and the church we belonged to ended up making it where we couldn’t do it there. And there was a lot of stuff but anyway we ended up getting married in his livingroom with just our parents and my grandparents in attendence (my grandparents only because my grandpa was the officiant).
So now I am engaged again, we both want to elope. Its number 2 for both of us and I have plans to do it in my livingroom which has a big fireplace, I’ve planned candles and an evening ceremony. I know that he loves what I have planned, but it could also be switched to an outdoor wedding, that would just make things a bit more complicated, and cold.
Here’s my problem, its beginning to feel too much like my first wedding and I don’t want to do that. I started out thinking we could invite our families, that ends up being 20 people on my side and 6 on his though. So I feel weird about that. Not sure if I should. I don’t have a lot of time to plan so I need to figure this out. What would you do? I’d really love to just have it be the just 2 of us but I feel like our kids should all be there and I don’t think I could exclude my mom because it would hurt her feelings too much. Also we haven’t even told anyone we’re engaged yet and we’re going to elope sometime in the next 2 months.
Ugh, isn’t eloping supposed to be easier? What would you do if you were me?
Post # 3
What about a semi-destination wedding? Is there a nice Inn or Bed & Breakfast less than an hour’s drive from you? Even a beautiful restaurant would be nice.
One thing we considered when we were still thinking of having guests (we ended up totally eloping to wine country, all alone) was renting a suite at a posh hotel in our city and having the ceremony there, then dinner brought in by the hotel.
Post # 4
OMG, I also eloped TWICE as well! You are the first one I’ve met to do so!
Like you, I really really REALLY wanted it to NOT look anything like my first wedding. I even went down the route of a full wedding just because, but we cancelled it for other reasons.
The first time was the county clerk’s office (she literally stood up from her desk to to the cermeony) and then we went back to work.
This time, we did an 11 day honeymoon road trip the Canadian Rockies and got married while on the trip at a beautiful glacier lake outside. I actually wore a real wedding gown and a bouqet and everything. It was different in many many ways.
However, one thing that still is the same, with both weddings, neither families have met by the time of the wedding. My family has still not met my husband’s family. That irked me royally that it happened again like that, but I have to chalk it up to my family being weird and non-travellers.
If I were you, I’d go elope while ON your honeymoon. Wrap it all up together.
You could invite just a handful of kids and parents.
If you don’t awnt to make them travel, then get married somewhere beautiful and outdoors, you’re in NoCal! You have endless beautiful spots. Ideally one with a backup rain plan built in.