Post # 1
So my FI and I got engaged in October last year. It was a surprise, and I was so thrilled I could have cared less if it was a cracker jack ring on my finger. He told me that it wasn’t real, it was CZ and sterling silver, and that he had wanted me to pick out my real ring, but he didn’t want to ruin the surprise. I loved that, and found it very thoughtful, even though like I said, I could have cared less what it was. Well we got busy with this and that, and then needed some car repairs done, you know how it goes. Finally a couple weeks ago we forced ourselves to go to the jeweler and we got his wedding band, and a bridal set for me that I LOVE. Gorgeous halo setting with a princess cut diamond in the center and little round diamonds down the sides, and a matching band. The old ring has alot of sentimental value for me, so I’m wearing it on a chain as a necklace.
Here’s my vent. If I had a dollar for every person who asked me “what was wrong with your old ring? was it not good enough for you? I liked the old one better. The old one was bigger” then I’d be able to pay for the whole wedding!!! I never made a big deal about either ring, because I’m just not like that. I only showed it off if people asked. And I never mentioned that I had gotten a new ring. People just noticed I guess. But seriously? RUDE comments! I told one person who asked the truth, and their response was “he proposed with a fake ring?? that’s like a fake proposal!!” Wow, shallow much? I found it incredibly sweet that he did it the way he did, and I’m all that matters in this situation. Anyway, that’s just my vent. I’m probably just getting annoyed with people for no reason.
Post # 3
Don’t listen to superficial, shallow people. Or insensitive ones for that matter. It’s what you and your FI decided to do, and you both are happy. That’s all that matters.
Post # 4
@silverbrrlrcr: Well I would be annoyed too If people were asking me those questions.. I mean it’s none of their business and what if you wanted to wear a different metal that was longer lasting because the one he proposed with is silver and you didn’t want to mess it up because it’s so special to you? Uh I swear people are so annoying.
Enjoy your new ring and don’t feel the need to explain because you actually shouldn’t have to.
Post # 5
ew. I think it was so thoughtful of him – and much better to propose with a nice “fake” ring then no ring at all if the ring was important to both of you to have during a proposal. Haters hate on – it’s none of their business so just ignore their rude comments!
Post # 6
Omg that was so rude of people to ask. I bet they were jealous.
Post # 7
I’m in the same situation. My FI proposed with a “placeholder ring” because I went months without knowing what I wanted. My family felt like it wasn’t a real engagement until I got my venue last month. I picked my set but we put it on layaway and I now have a stunt ring until I receive my real set.
I only told my family but none of my single friends. My married friends understood and my coworkers don’t seem as nosey but I’m sure they say it behind my back. I don’t care what they say and I hope you don’t either. I think it’s a wonderful idea for a man to propose with a placeholder and let you pick out your ring if that’s what he wants.
Just let small minded people make their small comments. If the ring matters that much to them I guess it’s a good thing that they get to keep it after the divorce : ) For those of us who care more about the man committing his life to us, we have other priorities.
Post # 9
Fake ring = fake proposal? Really? How incredibly rude and insensitive. It never ceases to amaze me how passive aggressive and rude some people can be.
OP I’m so happy for you and your new purchase. It is such an exciting thing to pick out that special ring and now you have two amazing rings that mean a great deal to you, regardless of the stones involved. To be honest no one deserves or has any right to ask for an explanation so don’t by any means feel you need to give them one!
Post # 10
It never ceases to amaze me the gall people have. They ask questions if your ring isn’t a diamond…they ask questions if your ring too small for their tastes….they make comments if your ring is to too large for their tastes…
Spend some time around the ring boards and check out some of the venting posts that entail the ridiculous comments people make about engagement rings and you may not feel so bad! You’ll realize that there are nay-sayers for everything! I’m sure both rings are gorgeous and precious to you and that’s all that matters.
Post # 11
People can be so rude! It sounds like your fiance is a very considerate person and wanted to make sure you got a ring you loved, when people don’t see it that way then they’re just too absorbed in their own heads. Personally I think it makes sense to spend some time researching before investing in something soo meaningful and potentially expensive as an engagement ring.
Post # 12
Fake proposal? Oh, wow, some people do not understand the concept of being engaged. The ring might be fake but the person asking you to become his wife was definitely real!
Post # 14
Well, these people obviously have no problems of their own, so they have to get in other people’s business.
Those comments are just dumb. There’s nothing wrong with how the ring process went for you. Congrats on the new set.
Post # 15
OP: I dont know how, but I continue to be surprised at how annoying people can be!!! Can we see the rings? 🙂
Post # 16
My goodness, I would have been livid!!! Good job not punching the “fake proposal” person lol.
Just remember, people who say things like that are idiots with no home training.
Also, I’d love to see your new set if you have a picture? Princess cuts are my favorite, and it sounds lovely!