2nd proposal stories!!

posted 3 years ago in Proposals
Post # 3
136 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Mine’s a bit of a twist, but it still counts.  😛

First proposal was private and not exactly a surprise (which is exactly what I wanted).  He asked “whatever life brings, I hope you want me in it?”  I did.  I still do.  We started wedding planning.

A few months before our wedding date, he sat me down and told me that he’d been struggling with something for a while.  That he feels like he’s a woman and prefers female pronouns.  That she wants to transition and live and be recognized as female.

A month of soul searching on my part, and I came to the conclusion that it wasn’t going to be an easy adjustment to make, but her gender identity is NOT an issue.  I asked her if she was comfortable going through with the wedding, as it was already mostly planned by the time she came out to me.  She was.  Things continued as normal.

I still felt awful that she’d be spending one of the most important days of her life in guy-mode.  My “something blue” was a sapphire ring that my dad gave my mom when I was born.  About a month before the wedding, I got down before her and asked if she’d want to do a vow renewal when she’s comfortable presenting as female, and gave her the ring.  Very little advance planning, and the ring that I occasionally wore on my right ring finger fits on her left perfectly.  She says it’s the second-happiest day of her life.

I still wore the sapphire on our wedding day, but the only times I’ve worn it since are when she’s forgotten to take it off and has needed to be guy-mode in public and was afriad someone would notice it (she’s since started wearing it full time now, and no one ever notices it).

Post # 5
287 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

My FI is planning a second proposal for our upgrade. He had planned out the most romantic proposal and I knd of messed up his plan lol, so he asked extremely low key, no down on one knee, no ring, just him and I. I loved it! But we are having our heirloom FINALY set so that I can wear it before the wedding in april (58 days!!!), and he accidently let it slip that he wants to do it right this time, and at least get down on one knee…


@SuspiciousCoconut:  I love your story!

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