(Closed) 2nd reception Dilemma

posted 10 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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297 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

I think it will be just fine – they’ll probably be happy that they don’t have to travel all over the country and that you still thought of them!

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

Are you planning on inviting people to the ceremony in Napa but not to the reception?  I would be a little ticked about that, if I was your guest.  It seems like you should invite everyone who comes to the coast for the wedding to the reception that occurs at that time.  If you have a number of people whom you want to invite only to the midwest reception, I would send an invitation to the reception with a wedding announcement – send it out just before or just after the wedding.  Or you can send an invitation to the wedding with information on both receptions, and just hope that most people won’t travel – but it sounds like that is not your preferred option.

Post # 5
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39 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2008

We have the same problem because I am from a very small town and we are getting married where I currently live (pretty far away). What we decided to do was to make one list but next to each person’s name, we had a column for either wedding, second reception, or both. We learned that if people are invited to the wedding, they have no expectation of being invited to the second reception unless they were close family (i.e. our parents or a close cousin or uncle). For those that we were 50-50 on (wanted them to only come to one event for monetary reasons), we waited for their response to our wedding and if it was a no, we immediately sent them a second reception invitation (sent wedding invites to those people a little early). This worked out really well.

Some people were a little offended as we only invited them to the second reception and not the wedding, but we simply emphasized that we were having a small family wedding (little white lie since my family is large, but it is pretty much all family) and that the second reception was our way to celebrate with those we wished to share our joy with. This always ease their annoyance or offense. 

Obviously this increased our postage as we often sent two inviations to people, but we saved money by only having them at one event. It can be tricky but people will understand and just remember, it’s your day so do whatever you want! Good Luck!     

Post # 6
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39 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2008

We have the same problem because I am from a very small town and we are getting married where I currently live (pretty far away). What we decided to do was to make one list but next to each person’s name, we had a column for either wedding, second reception, or both. We learned that if people are invited to the wedding, they have no expectation of being invited to the second reception unless they were close family (i.e. our parents or a close cousin or uncle). For those that we were 50-50 on (wanted them to only come to one event for monetary reasons), we waited for their response to our wedding and if it was a no, we immediately sent them a second reception invitation (sent wedding invites to those people a little early). This worked out really well.

Some people were a little offended as we only invited them to the second reception and not the wedding, but we simply emphasized that we were having a small family wedding (little white lie since my family is large, but it is pretty much all family) and that the second reception was our way to celebrate with those we wished to share our joy with. This always ease their annoyance or offense. 

Obviously this increased our postage as we often sent two inviations to people, but we saved money by only having them at one event. It can be tricky but people will understand and just remember, it’s your day so do whatever you want! Good Luck!     

Post # 7
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39 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2008

Sorry for two posts!

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