- 6 years ago
hi hive, I’ll tell you a little about my background, this is my first post. I was married very young, just turned 20 and we had quite a difficult life together due to financial issues etc. Long story short, the relationship went down hill as soon as we married and I wasn’t in love with him. Anyway, he walked out on me and our 5month old son a few days before Christmas. I found I felt nothing but relief. Got myself together pretty quickly, moved in with my parent stemporarily to get on my feet again. My son is now a year old, I’m moving to a beautiful little apartment in a few weeks, am self sufficient financially and enjoying life more than ever before. I have met a wonderful man and we are very much in love. I have never felt like this in my life, We have been going out only 4 months and it is very serious, despite my best intentions not to let it get so. I had not planned on a serious relationship so soon, as everyone kept telling me not to get into anything too deep, take time out for myself etc etc. The problem is, despite my best intentions I have fell madly in love with him. He has a daughter from a previous relationship and she lives in Scotland with her mother (we live in Ireland). He visits every month for four days to see her and says he plans to do this more often now his debts are clear and has more money. It’s only really an hour flight. Marriage is very important to him understandable (he has never been married before) and says he wants nothing more than to settle down with me and my son and be a proper family. He wants me to accompany him to Scotland every loof weeks for a weekend at a time, he has a lovely mobile hom eon the beach over there and it would be time for him to see his daughter as well as a little break for us. Anyway, he is 33, I am 26, we both really want more babies, but he wants to get married first. I was very against the idea at the beginning, not knowing if I ever wanted to get married again, he said he understood and would wait on me and hoped that one day I would. I know its all quite sudden. But I can’t help how I feel. I think it is other peoples reactions putting me off the idea to be honest. My family and friends would be horrified. I am not even divorced yet. Just looking for some opinions. We love each other like nothing else.