Post # 1
Sorry. Second vent of the day, I fear people are going to start saying “Oh geez, it’s that Circus Peanut, watch out! She’s always b*tching about something!” I’m really not an angry person in the scheme of things. It’s just been one of those days.
So, I had a crappy day today. I called my mom to talk about my crappy day in the hopes that it would make me feel better. I got about halfway through what I wanted to tell her and then she interjects, out of nowhere “So have you set a wedding date yet? Do you have things settled with the church? What about the reception site?”
I said we’d get to that in a minute, and she replied that she had a hair appointment so she needed to find out before she left. I told her to call me when she had more time and said goodbye.
Now, I know she did in fact have an appointment. I was just irked that she would cut me off when I needed support because she had to know about what progress we’ve made on the date. It’s not like it was a life or death situation, it could have waited.
I’m happy that she’s more excited about things now, but really, talking about this shouldn’t take priority over everything else that’s going on with me. Getting a date with the church is going to be a process, it’s not going to materialize tomorrow.
Post # 3
Eh, that’s moms for you. Pretty much every time I call my mom about ANYTHING, she’s like, “did you make a decision on this?” “did you make a decision on that?” And if I’m having a bad day or something, she’ll be like, “you’ll feel better…just think, you’re getting mah–reeed!!”
So I would take it with a grain of salt ;o)
Post # 4
your mum was on the way to the hairdresses – bet you $10 that she was asked all those questions when she walked in the door by the salon staff
ugghhh – mums…… hopefully youre feeling better now
Post # 5
Sorry your mom was not listening to you. She had in her mind these questions without actually listening to what you had to say. She’s probably being asked the question by everyone that she talks to about you. And, she sounded like she was rushed and trying to get out of the door. Maybe try her later tonight and you’ll get that mom support that you were looking for.
Post # 6
- Wedding: July 2010 - The Tower Club
When you’re on the phone with someone, it’s hard to know what they’re really doing. When my mom sounds distant on the phone, I know she’s either (a) navigating traffic – drive safely, mom!; (b) watching tv; or (c) really tired. She never tells me either, I have to guess. We live far apart so sometimes I wish she could listen more, but she really is doing the best she can…
I’m really close to my mom, but she’s super-busy and most of our calls are punctuated with, “hold on, the phone’s ringing!” or some variant. Sometimes she is busy when I really need her, or when I’ve burst into tears or something… so I sympathize.
Post # 7
Oh my gosh, I know how you feel!! My mom is OVER THE MOON which I am thrilled about, but she is waaaaaaay hyper active about the wedding. She could talk about it non-stop. I’m excited, but rational in the fact that I have a year and a month to have everything in order. I talk to my mom and she’s like “so we’ll book the site! then the caterer! then we can order dresses!” She’s pressuring me to try on gowns NOW, and I got engaged a month ago and she knows I have a lot of weight I want to lose. So – I know how you feel. My mom is super psyched for the wedding but sometimes you’re like “hey! what about me?! your daughter?!”. I have a double challenge because I live in LA and am planning the wedding in Northern California. Oh well! It will all work out perfectly. I know how you feel tho, peanut!!
Post # 8
Thanks guys, I heart you all! I am better rested and feeling more like a human being today, thanks for letting me vent my crankiness!
Post # 9
That’s what we’re all here for.
Post # 10
Circus Peanut- Glad you are feeling a bit better today! Just know that you’re always welcome to vent here at Weddingbee… we are more than happy to listen and we won’t roll our eyes at your second (or third or fourth or more!) venting post!!! 🙂