Post # 1
Hi bees. Up until last night I had been very calm about all the planning and the upcoming Events. And last night I had a complete breakdown over it. I’m no longer excited and I’m not really looking forward to Saturday.
Because of the schedule of my MUA, that absolutely cannot be changed, I have about 20 minutes to get dressed and ready before the wedding. My longline bra alone takes 10 minutes. Then slip, dress, shoes and jewelry. I wanted to take a minute to take photos as I was getting ready and stop and have a chance to just look at myself. But I have to rush into it and get out the door for family photos.
Then, we rush to the venue to take family photos in the half hour before the ceremony. So, get those out of the way real quick.
Then ceremony, and FH and I leave with bridal party for photos. Except, the weather is going to be terrible. We are getting married in a beautiful wooded park in the middle of nowhere. There are absolutely no indoor places for photos. We can’t do them in the venue because all our guests will be there and it’s just a big room. So, we can drive an hour round trip to take photos in the city, and miss almost 2 hours of the reception and serve dinner late. And still, feel rushed and stressed and panicked through the whole thing.
I’my feeling like after two years of planning this isnt what I wanted. I don’t want to spend the first 6 hours of my day stressed out and worried about times and running around late. I wanted to take time and really appreciate it and enjoy it. Ad it seems there’s no way to do that. I’m extremely upset, and I have absolutely no motivation to do any of the 28 things I need to finish up today, because I’m not that excited about the wedding. I can’t be bothered to finish my (many) crafts, make my necklace or deal with packing or the organizational stuff. We leave tomorrow and I’m just not interested. I’m just not sure what to do.
Post # 3
@krex: That does sound really stressful.
I don’t recommend serving dinner late at your reception. Would it be the worst thing to take pics when your guests can see you? It might actually be more fun than you imagine to have people watching your photo shoot. I know you’re saying it’s just in a big room but can’t you have the photos taken in front of wherever you’re getting married? (There must be something decorated for where your ceremony is, right?)
Post # 4
Can you find a different MUA – that seems to be the problem here. I agree that you shouldn’t serve dinner late.
If you can find a different MUA (can you go to the MAC counter?) and get your make up done earlier it would be worth it to save your schedule.
Did you just find out about her schedule? Did you have a time set for her when you selected her and she has changed it? Can you talk to her at all and tell her that her schedule is literally messing your entire day up?
Post # 5
I think it only took us 20 minutes to get ready, and I got 40-50 “getting ready” photos!
Post # 6
Girl, you need to rearrange that schedule. Is there anywhere else you can do your makeup? That’s #1. If you can get that changed, it’s going to give you more breathing room. Don’t serve dinner late!
I know a lot of people are adamantly against this, but have you thought of doing a first look? I’m not kidding you, it is the #1 best thing I did at my wedding. I was a freaking nervous wreck, and that first look was amazing. It was the most tender moment for me and my husband, we got some amazing photos, and we were able to knock out ALL formal photos before the ceremony — win, win. We had our ceremony, and went straight into the reception — everyone loved it, and it went so smoothly.
Don’t think it’s too late to rearrange things. It’s not. I changed a million things the MORNING of my wedding — times, locations, I just did it. I didn’t stress about it, I just did it. And while it wasn’t PERFECT (my mom remembered to bring the boutineers to the photo location, but not the bouquets!), it all went fine and although we ended up running a bit late, nobody was starving or bored while we were taking pictures between ceremony/reception.
Regardless of what you do, you are allowed to rearrange things. In fact, it seems like you must. Don’t lose your motivation now! You’re going to get MARRIED! You’ve been planning this day for TWO YEARS! You’ve got this 🙂
Post # 7
- Wedding: October 2013 - Tybee Island, GA
Girl believe me, i think thats what the wedding is for to stress the bride out, so in the end she sees all the months and months of planning; doesnt even matter. You’ll be married in 4 days:)
(or at least thats what i’m hoping)
I, also, am getting married in 3 days… our schedule is hecktic! Good luck bee