Post # 1
Let me first start by saying I am really happy for all of these soon-to-be family members. I am a little irked though. 🙁 My guy and I have been looking at engagement rings for over a year, we just haven’t had the money to spend. However, we kind of have a tentative plan and know that we’ll be engaged before summer of this year and already know we want to be married in August 2014.
This being said my guys sister was engaged last fall. His cousin just got engaged over Valentine’s Day and are planning to have a summer wedding in 2014 as well. When thinking about this we will have 3 weddings in our family in less than a year and 2 within just a month or two away from each other. I want everyone to have their own moment and I feel that each wedding will just be compared to the others. 🙁
The town we come from is not small and there are only so many venue places available. I don’t want family members going to two weddings within a coupel months and have them both at the same venues. I know how petty this sounds but for some reason it bothers me. My guy says it’s nothing to be worried about. Am I way overreacting?
Post # 3
@mjax: It is your wedding day. Of course you want it to be special. So I do understand how you feel. It will need communication between you all so you don’t book the same venues close together. I would book my venue now LOL…I love weddings so three weddings would be so exciting for me. Congratulations on your engagement x
Post # 4
@Kimy: I have definitely thought about starting to book now :)! It all definitely does make me a little anxious. The future bride of the other summer wedding definitely will be hard to work with if any problems do come up. I think my guy would think I am crazy if I started booking now though. I think he would want to wait a couple months until we are actually engaged.
Thanks for your nice words! 🙂
Post # 5
@Kimy: I agree with you!
This is similar to a scenario in my family, not involving myself but cousins in the same family. Everyone wants to have their moment and we all have “plans” but you can’t get mad at the person the acts on them first and starts planning their wedding, if that’s you then so be it!
Post # 6
@eraff32: LOL you are so correct!
Post # 7
Just keep in mind how much there is to consider when choosing a wedding date. There are (at least) 2 sides of each person family to consider when making sure VIP’s are available.
Many years ago my very young stepdd planned her wedding, got everything set and THEN told us about it. She was 18. Well, she had chosen a date 9 months out from when she told us, but I was in the military and already had orders for an NCO academy. Attendance was mandatory. She didn’t check with any VIP’s, they just picked a date. I didn’t aks her to, but she moved her date.
People have school, military, and work obligations that tie in to having your family and friends available. I know that is how all of my married girls approached their wedding dates. They made a list of who was “non-negotiable” to them as far as having them at their wedding and made sure the date worked for them.
When you have blended families, that can get even harder.
Your time will be very special for you, just as theirs will for them. It will all work out just fine.
Post # 8
@mjax: I know exactly what you mean! I was the last to be engaged tho, however been with my guy the longest. My sister is getting married in June, my FSIL in August and myself in December. It’s all within 6 months of each other.
Post # 9
Thanks ladies! It really does help to hear what you have to say. I know that it will all work out it but I get impatient waiting to get to that point! 🙂
Post # 11
My brother and I are getting married 6 months apart, and my MOH and I are getting married 5 weeks apart (I’m also her MOH). We haven’t had any conflict because we all love and support each other and place being married to the people we love well above having a big “my day” specticle.
Post # 12
I guess my biggest issue with this is if it were any other couple. My guy’s sister is the sweetest and I have no problem with her. However his cousin and fiance well she is very confrontational and that is the wedding ours would be closest too. It’s not so much that I’m stuck in that my day mentality it’s I don’t want any family tension with so much family time that will be happening.
Post # 13
@mjax: I would be excited! i also love weddings and all the pre-wedding festivities like the showers and parties. However, I think as a bride I would be stressed by this
Post # 14
mjax I know exactly how you feel. We were the first to get engaged (and also the oldest and been together the longest), and within 3 weeks 3 of his cousins were engaged, and all planning weddings for summer 2013. One is getting married in April, one in July, and us in June. The problem was the third cousin. After we had booked our venue and dates and told everyone, they decided to change their date to ours!! I was mortified. I have major issues with his family anyway, so this was really just terrible. They refused to change, saying they tried but got nowhere (doubt they tried hard, they hadn’t signed the contract when we told them we were already booked). So now my favorite of his cousins (the July wedding) is in the other wedding on our date. In Florida (we’re in Maryland). So his grandmother who my fiance dearly loves will not be attending our wedding, nor will his cousin, and we just aren’t sure about anyone else yet. His mother is not coming for different reasons.
Moral of the story – make sure to be in CONSTANT communication with everyone getting engaged. It is rough on the family members, especially when you think of the money for gifts, travel, etc. Luckily 3 of the weddings are in Maryland, so that’s not too bad, but it’s still tough for showers, etc. You’ll still get your special day, but focus on your friends and family, because chances are his family will only be talking about the weddings of the girls in their family. At least that has been my experience. But remember, communication is key, whether it’s scheduling bachelorette parties, bridal showers, or weddings.
Good luck with everything! Hope you have better luck then I did haha
Post # 15
Checkout this mega wedding in AZ – five siblings all married on the same day!
OK, not saying you should do this, but these things do happen (colliding engagements) – I wish you luck!