Post # 1
Hive, I need some advice. I’ve been a bit stressed with wedding planning lately — every time ANYONE has a wedding-related question, they dump it straight into my lap, because I’m the bride and they assume I’m running the show and I have all the answers and no one else’s opinion counts. (Seriously. Try getting vendors and family members to call the groom. They won’t do it.) In a way, this is also a family pattern. I’m kind of the "together one," the one who plans ahead and has everything organized, so this isn’t the first time my family has assumed I’m planning everything and can answer all of their questions.
I’m worried that this pattern will repeat itself on the day of the wedding, and hiring a day-of coordinator to stop people from bothering me every time a problem comes up is starting to sound like a really good idea. I do not have a friend or family member I would feel comfortable asking to do this. My caterer is great and can probably handle most of the setup and take-down, but the venue manager will not be assisting with any setup (we’re getting married at a historic mansion, and the contract with the mansion states that the mansion employees are there to make sure we’re abiding by the mansion rules and are not responsible for helping us in any way, shape or form), so no help there.
I guess I have 2 questions. 1) for those who are married, did you have a DOC? Was the extra expense worth it? Why or why not? If you didn’t have a DOC, how did things work out? 2) Is 3 months out too late to hire a good DOC? I haven’t had many responses to the pricing inquiries I’ve sent out, and I’m wondering if it’s because my date is already booked.
Post # 3
I had one of my super reliable and organized best friends act as my DOC and it worked out really well! Our wedding was small so she didn’t have to do too much and she was still able to enjoy herself. But it was helpful to have someone keep track of time, help set up, and take care of all the little things that I couldn’t exactly do in my ginormous white dress.
Not sure if 3 months out is too late to hire a DOC, but it certainly doesn’t hurt to ask. Good luck!
Post # 4
As a DOC, I’ve had clients book me about one month in advance for my services. I think there are a lot of DOC’s out there that are just starting out, and really flexible. So definitely look around, and I’m sure you’ll be able to get someone (if you decide to). I think Craigslist is a great place to start too! Good luck!
Post # 5
Both of my sisters had DOC’s for their weddings(actually the same girl) and said it was the best decision they made and didn’t know how the day would have run without her. She was kind of expensive but was on top of all of the mini catastrophes taht you dont think about.
Post # 6
I hired a DOC about 3 months out as well…I was starting to worry that I would have to take care of all the little issues of the day and I decided that I did not want to do that! So I did my research, emailed a bunch of DOCs in the area (Massachusetts and New Hampshire) and finally found one in my price range…since April is still considered an off-season month, she said she could do it for $85/hour…and that’s with an assistant! So I’ve hired her for 5 hours and though my wedding is next Saturday, so far she’s been great with questions and minor emergencies. I think she’ll be well-worth the money…piece of mind is priceless!! Good luck!
Post # 7
Update — I found someone!! She’s just starting out (and is therefore charging me a discounted price), but she has lots of experience organizing charity events, and she seems incredibly nice and organized. I suddenly feel so much less stressed 🙂