Post # 1
I’m wondering if the whole idea of getting rings that are 3-months-pay is still something that people go by. We haven’t bought our bands yet, but I’m pretty sure our total for all 3 rings will be less than $1000. My FI is a student, so he has no income, so I guess this doesn’t apply to me. But I see all these girls with really pretty, larger rings & I just was wondering if that’s a relevant guideline… or if couples were spending more… or less.. on their rings.
Post # 3
I think that’s pretty dumb honestly. I think it was thought up by the jewelry companies to get people to spend more. Just because you make a lot doesn’t mean you have to spend a lot on a ring. We spent a lot less.
Post # 4
No, I think that is a ridiculous ploy by the jewelry companies to get you to spend more money. I have a gorgeous ring and it was way less than 3 months of my FI’s salary. 🙂
I woulda been hella pissed if he spent that much money on a ring!
Post # 5
You should spend what you are comfortable with. I think that the 3 months pay thing is one of those “wedding myths” meant to make people spend more money than maybe they would otherwise.
Post # 6
The two month guideline was brought to us be DeBeers and no one else. If my FI spent that much money on a ring I’d have smacked him then said no, and he knows it. I’m not trying to offend anyone with a larger more expensive ring, but I’m in grad school and that money could go to something more important.
Post # 7
Even this USED to be two months pay, but I have heard recently that it’s bumped up to three.
Lets’s just say mine was about one paycheck, so 1/6 of this “guideline”.
Post # 8
@sapphiresun…wow…I didn’t realize it went up.
Post # 9
@a2joy: Debeers created that so men would spend more on a diamond. I would seriously smack the crap out of FI if he spent three months worth of paychecks on a ring.
Post # 10
The 3 month concept is ridiculous. I would be pissed if FI fell for that BS.
Post # 11
3 months is excessive and is not a requirement. Everyone just chooses now based on what they can do, which is great. We can use more money in our pockets right now with the economy, ect.
Post # 12
It’s bullshit. I mean, if a guy WANTS to spend that much and is able to do so without hurting financially then so be it. But if my FI had spent three months pay on a silly ring…omg, I would have had an aneurysm!
Post # 13
I would not have been happy if my husband spent 2 or 3 months pay on my engagement ring! If we are about to combine our finances and start a life together, I would not want him to spend that much on one piece of jewelry.
Post # 14
Its not a guide that anybody I know of goes by. My husband spent about 2-3 weeks salary on my e-ring, and we didn’t think of it that way (in terms of ring to salary ratio)….was just the amount he felt comfortable spending at that time.
Post # 15
I think it is just a marketing tool Debeers used to get men to buy a bigger ring. Since Debeers is so well known, they use that advantage and create a standard and guys, not knowing much on diamonds, might have that stuck in their head. I guess for men it’s more of self pride maybe? so that may be why debeers advertises with that angle.
However, I think it’s all a load of crap! There is no set guideline on how much your ring should cost. It’s a symbol of love and commitment, and you cant put a price tag on that. For me, a man making a commitment is worth more than anything else, and that alone is a HUGE step for them.
When we first got engaged, we didnt even have a ring! we ended up buying plain gold band. 10 months later he got me an engagement ring that I absolutely love…regardless of the price. For him, he wanted to get it because he knew i liked e-rings.. even though I never showed it or complained with my plain band. So it meant alot to him to get the woman he loves something she wanted..
Post # 16
I agree with others that it sounds like a marketing tool. I am happy to report that my husband paid less than 2 weeks worth of his salary on my engagement ring. It’s exactly what I wanted.