Post # 1
Whether you are for or against, give your reasons. This is not to start a war or anything, but to see what people think.
As for me, I’m against. Asking or even demanding for a ring that costs 3 months’ salary is not only exaggerating but also unnecessary. I don’t think love is measured by how much/how big a ring is. Money can be better spent elsewhere, or even saved.
Post # 3
I don’t agree with the 3 months salary crap either. Whatever your SO feels comfortable spending is what should be spent. If my ex spent that much on my old ring, I would have had one hell of a ring!
Post # 4
I really don’t think it’s about what the fiance chooses to spend on the ring. I think it’s all about what the bride expects. If the woman has some expectation on what the guy should spend there is a problem.
If my husband wanted to spend 30,000 on a ring that’s great and if he wanted to spend 1,000 that would be just as great.
Post # 5
I think 3 months salary is way too much to spend on a ring. then again, i didn’t want a large/expensive ring anyway.
Post # 6
Personally, I think it’s nuts. My “three month salary” rule would have equalled about $9000. My ring was $1100 and that seened extravagant to me.
Post # 7
If it works for the couple, then I think it’s great. That doesn’t work for SO and I an luckily for us, my dream ring will only cost 3 weeks worth of income.
Post # 8
Unless your mortgage is paid, the kids are fed, your retirement fund is healthy… You get the picture. I think the 2 or 3 month salary rule is nuts. It’s an object. A small diamond ring doesn’t mean the commitment is any less than a huge honkin’ rock.
Post # 9
@Lalaine: Omg! I have always thought that this is ridiculously foolish and I have wondered if anyone actually follows this. Who comes up with this stuff? I would absolutely KILL my SO if he spent three months salary on an e-ring for me. My dream ring is about two weeks pay. For three month worth of his salary we could buy a brand new car outright.
Post # 10
This rule is fro the 50’s when people made like $100 a week and everything cost less.
Post # 11
I think it’s unreasonable. He probably gave 1.5 month’s salary’s worth but I love my ring and would have been happy with anything. We are essentially just starting out so it is unreasonable for him to spend THAT much on a ring.
Post # 12
I didn’t really have an expectation of what he should spend. I had no idea what rings/diamonds cost before we went shopping. Before we started looking at anything, he told the jeweler (in front of me) what he was comfortable spending. It ended up being around 3 months salary, but he threw the number out and that was that. At the end of the day, he wanted me to get what I loved and would make me happy within a reasonable price point.
Post # 13
Against. SO and I talked about it and came up with an amount that we could agree on. I would never in a million years expect him to spend that much.
Post # 14
If that really happened I would have a ring that costs more than my car (and I drive a luxury car!)
I think the guy should spend whatever he is comfortable spending on the ring. It’s when the bride expects it that I think there’s a problem.
Post # 15
I don’t think my SO gave even a month’s salary, perhaps not even half, but he looked for something he thought I would love (and I do), and that’s what counts. It doesn’t mean he loves me any less!
Post # 16
For me I think this is a very outdated tradition. I would kill FI if he spent his 3 months salary on my ring!