Post # 1
Hey Bees –
So I’ve got 2 typical registries going with actual gifts (both relatively small – about 20 items on each.) and 1 honeymoon registry. Just a friendly disclaimer – I don’t think honeymoon registries are rude, nobody will convince me of that BUT I do understand the point of a shower is to “shower” the bride with gifts.
That being said – I should have my aunt leave OFF the honeymoon registry on the shower invitation, correct? I don’t think H-moon registries themselves are rude but it might not be appropriate for a shower. Do you agree?
Post # 3
i wouldn’t include the honeymoon registry for the shower. My logic is that you open gifts at a shower, I think it would be a little rude listing what people purchased from the honeymoon registry as you will basically be announcing what people spent…
Post # 4
@MsGinkgo: Thanks! Though I don’t think I would be announcing what people spent. If someone purchased us a bike tour through X canyon then that is what would be announced. It would only be if other guests knew how much it costs by memory from looking over the registry. But anyone could do that since everyone has access to all the registries and prices.
Post # 5
To be honest I’m not comfortable with registries at all (it’s not something we’re used to having here, while on the other hand, we are used to having guest pay their meals, which is a no-no in other cultures, hehehe). But since the shower is actually meant to be for the bride, I would keep the honeymoon registry as a wedding gift option only, because it is meant for the couple. At the same time, maybe some people will give you money instead of registry items, so you can save that money for your honeymoon as well. 🙂
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Post # 7
I would probably just use the two physical registries!
Post # 8
OK – well this just in – my aunt already sent the invitations to the printer and she included the honeymoon registry (I just asked.)
Hopefully people will be ok with it. Ooops.
Post # 9
Hi! My shower-throwers did include my honeymoon registry on the invite and I ended up getting a lot toward our honeymoon- which was awesome.
I don’t see why honeymoon registry would be anything different than a store registry.
You’re totally fine, no one will think anything of it!!
Post # 10
I really don’t see it as a big deal. I just think people should relax about these kinds of things. I don’t like when people ask for money and things like that, but you’re already putting your registries on the invitation (since it’s a shower) so whatever about including the honeymoon registry. I don’t think anyone will really think badly about it.
Post # 11
I don’t think it’s a big deal. I prefer to buy a physical gift, but I think it’s a good idea to let everyone know about the honeymoon registry, b/c some people may not be able to come to the shower, but will still want to get you a gift, and it will give them more options.
Post # 12
I would only use registeries where people can get you a physical gift. That’s because the whole point of the shower is to open the presents.
That being said I wouldn’t be offended. Just confused maybe. How could I bring a physical gift (which is what is typical) from a honeymoon registry? So I’d just use your other registeries!
Post # 13
I wouldn’t include it. Half the fun of showers is opening the gifts and seeing what everyone got you! People will be able to donate to your honeyfund for the actual wedding.