Post # 1
The normal one. The shower that your bridesmaids have for you. I was perfectly okay with having one.
My FMIL decided that she wanted to throw me a shower too for her side of the family. Okay not a big deal she just wants to split up the sides. I get it.
At this point. I am just like WHAT THE HELL. My dad and his fiance want to throw me a shower for his side of the family.
So now The first shower will be for my mom and her husbands family and my friends. The second shower will be for his Mom’s, Dad’s, and Step Dad’s side of the family and his friends. And the third shower will be for My dad’s side of the family.
Am I over reacting about this I do not like being the center of attention very much.
How many showers did you/are you having?
Post # 2
Waitingbee57: No is a complete sentence. You do not have to have any shower that you don’t want. Politely decline and find a way to combine the guestlists in to two showers or just one. Not every member of the family has to come to a shower.
Post # 3
Waitingbee57: That’s a lot of showers I only will have one. I will say go for it it your wedding they want to pamper you let them have fun and enjoy the showers because wedding planning is very stressful
Post # 4
Can your BMs just invite all your family so you have one large shower?
Post # 5
Yeah just say no and tell all these people thanks but if they want to host, they need to do it together. Three showers is going to make you look gift-grabby (which is a good excuse to get them to knock off with the showers).
Post # 6
It’s nice that so many people want to throw a shower for you. You may want to amend your poll to have a 0 option. I did not have a shower for the exact reason you said you’re uncomfortable with 3. I don’t like being the center of attention, so I politely declined when my BMs offered.
Post # 7
One. I wouldn’t have wanted more than one.
Post # 8
carolinabelle: Chaedra: Preppy_Bee: Horseradish: kamurp: gelaine22:
Thats how I feel. I mean we are only inviting certain family to certain ones but I am annoyed by it. My dad has a valid reason (he lives 20 minutes awa from his family where as I live over an hour.) my FMIL just wants something to do. and I want the normal one with my family. I just feel like 3 is too many.
I know people who have had four – five wedding showers but I only attended one and I know plenty of people who have had 2. I just feel weird. I dont want to tell any of them no because they are wanting to help and I see it. I just dont know how I feel having 3 wedding showers.
Post # 9
Waitingbee57: I am having four :S. I knew I would have three. I moved away from family so I am having one in the state I live and then I wanted to split up our families for showers at home. I have been to showers where there were 50+ people and they were nightmares so I wanted a smaller shower. I tried to get out of the fourth but I was informed that the community shower was not optional.