Post # 1
My fiance and I are getting married in 3 1/2 months and I have an out of town bridesmaid who I’ve texted once a week over the last 3 weeks and she has not responded. I know she has a lot going on, so I understand if she does not feel up for being a bridesmaid and the cost. She and her husband were trying to get pregnant up until he left for Afghanistan a couple weeks ago. I don’t know what to say to her because I want to be there for her. So all I have texted is how are you doing, how are you… things like that. No word of the wedding. She has always responded that day or a day later up until a few weeks ago.
It’s a 2 month wait for the dresses to be made and the wait can get longer everyday. So she needs to order it or let me know if she is not up for being in the wedding.
Anyway.. how do I find out if she really wants to be in the wedding, and ask when she is going to get her dress. I understand her wanting to wait in case they did get pregnant because she’ll need a bigger size as she told me she might. I don’t want to be insensitive because I know she’s having a hard time.. but I also to watch out for myself in and find out.
Post # 3
Pick up the phone and give her a call.
Post # 4
I would definitely call her or try to arrange to meet with her in person. Perhaps she is going through something in regards to her husband’s deployment or her TTCing and is having a hard time. Do not mention the wedding right away, find out if she needs to talk or is having a personal issue and try to support her with that first.
Make sure she knows you aren’t trying to pressure her but that you would like to know if she is still up for being involved in your wedding, and to what extent.
Post # 5
I was having this same thing happening to me a few weeks ago. I finally gave my Bridesmaid or Best Man a call and told her I would understand if she wanted to step down as a Bridesmaid or Best Man and just enjoy my wedding but she asured me that she wanted to be my Bridesmaid or Best Man she had just been really busy. But same as you I tex her for three weeks before I just broke down and called.
Post # 6
I say call her. She may need youand doesn’t know how to respond, or she may be busy. You won’t know until you get her on the phone.
Post # 7
@Bride7844: This but don’t start off with wedding stuff. Ask her how she is doing and such and work your way up to the wedding stuff. She is probably a but down in the dumps since her hubby just left for Afghanistan especially if it is his first deployment.
Post # 8
Give her a call. She might just be busy