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I think that your dress is very flattering and pretty. I just think that you need to have the length adjusted, but that is easy, you could even do that by just adding a crinoline. Is there something that you specifically think is lacking in the dress or something that you specifically don't like about the dress?
What exactly is bothering you about the dress? Would you feel better about it if you maybe wore some sort of bolero with it? Maybe cap sleeves? Or if you embellshed it with some sort of rhinestone belt or brooch? I actually think it looks really pretty as is, but if you made any of those changes I'm sure it would still look great. Also, what are you accesorizing it with? That can always change the look of the dress a lot.
Honestly I think you look great in this dress! Its a flattering fit. A sash would be too much with the beading up top. If you want to give it a little something extra maybe try a crinoline or something under it to give it more shape in the skirt?
Thanks for replying. I'm not wearing shoes in the photo, so with shoes it won't drag on the ground as much. I don't really like it because I don't think it's very flattering on my body - I don't really have a regular waist.. my waist is very high and I got love handles going on. I know that I probably judge myself a lot more than other people do though. I think maybe if the dress was more interesting or had more personality that I'd like it a lot more, but not sure how to do this?
I think it looks really great on you! A little hem and some steaming and it's good to go. It fits, its flattering and its a pretty dress! I know all about dress regret! I promise on that day with you hair, makeup and some accessories you will feel absolutely beautiful.
Can you NOT wear the shoulder straps? I think the dress is beautiful and as a PP said, quite flattering actually. I think the shoulder straps look a bit strange but it is easy to fix. If the dress won't stay up without them then wear a bustier underneath the dress and have it pinned inside to the top of the dress. Voila!
@billiem: I know all about love handles, I have them too. Some spanks will help hide those (even though I don't see them on you) and I think the dress gives you a nice waist. I agree with totheislands, I think that once you get everything on, your jewelry, your hair done, your veil, your make up, you will see a whole new dress in the mirror. Sometimes it is about the total package, rather than just a piece of the puzzle.
Lilllindy - Yes, I think I would feel better with a bolero of some kind. Not sure what kind of style would work best though. I was looking at these on Etsy:
http://www.etsy.com/listing/85650348/bridal-shrug-in-light-green-4-options
and, http://www.etsy.com/listing/57813567/beige-with-golden-yarn-shrug-bolero
For jewelry I was just going to wear something simple on the neck and then a chunkier pearl/rhinestone bracelet.
ViaMinorViator - those shiny straps in the picture are actually from the bra I was wearing, they aren't the straps from the dress. I got them to add thin, white, spaghetti straps to the dress later on (which you can't see in the photos, sorry bout that).
You look great! Wear some blingy earings, headband, flower, bracelet or shoes!
I am going to be honest
you need a more supportive bra - that will change the whole look of the dress - I really like the dress and if you wear a long line bustier you can nix the clear plastic straps and it will really show off your gorgeous figure
beautiful dress
I think this looks so good!! I would nix the tiny straps though but I seriously think you look great, gives you an awesome hourglass figure! :)
you mentioned that you wanted lace. I don't know if you need to wear the shoulder straps or not for support (I know I can't get away without them) but what about adding a cute lace bolero? Many bridal stores carry cute little lace jackets or lace sweater type things, Another easy fix would be to either add or take away the poofyness. you could add a crenoline or press whatever is curently in the dress to be much flatter (my sister is a plus-ish sized girl and she loved the look of sheath dresses but coudln't find one so she just literally cut the poof out of her dress) only for the truely committed.
The dress is very pretty on you. I was wondering do you have a longline bra? I say this because i'm a 36FF and I see clear strap. The Goddess collection would work wonders your top half. Below are some links to order the bra
http://www.amazon.com/Goddess-Womens-Lace-Bustier-GD0689/dp/B00127YBAA
What about addingn some kind of lace to the top of the dress? Something like in these photos?
@unixfairy: I was just about to suggest this.
We need to get those girls up and looking amazing! A better bra with a bit more support will make a world of difference.
the criss-crosses in the back are awesome! I think the dress is really pretty- maybe you just add a little extra with your accessories. I like the top and bottom left, and bottom right top options you posted- I'm not sure, but maybe the more detailed lace will compete with the beading?
I am known to be very honest when people ask me how they look.. And I think that you look very shapely and nice in your dress.. I also think a really good bra is great for everyone, and if you like the lace bolero, then definitely get one.. Wear it with confidence and ROCK IT GIRL!!
Yikes! Haha thanks for the advice on the 'girls'! I never noticed that before. My first picture was the first time I tried the dress on (an older lady tied it up). The second time I tried the dress on (to get the straps added) a different lady tied it up in the back and it was waaaaaay tighter (the second photo above) and she also got me to pull it up a lot higher... it made SUCH huge different in lifting up the ladies, as well as bringing out a bit more of my waist (I think), but I don't have a picture from the second fitting from the front.
@DestinBride85 Thanks for the links! Definitely gonna check them out.
if you raise the girls up, that dress will look like a totally different dress.... seriously check out a long line bra or bustier, if not the ones posted then another one.... that, some spanx, and a bridesmaid that knows how to haul on that corset--and you you've got yourself a totally amazing curve-hugging dress there! :)
if you have time/money to change anything major, you might could undo/remove the pick-ups? (only if you don't like them, of course)
i think a nice lace bolero would look lovely, too... :)
Just want to say a huuuuge thank you to everyone! I feel so much better now having read all your thoughtful input. Sometimes it's so easy to let your negative thoughts take over and you forget to just stop and be happy... hey, you're getting married! hehe.
I think I'm going to make myself a lace bolero... get something to hike up the girls... and try to remember that hair, makeup, and jewelry will pull it all together. Thanks again! :O)
I would get a corset to wear under the dress. That will lift the girls and give even more definition to your waist. Believe me being a plus size gal myself a corset can be your best friend :)
@billiem: No problem! The Goddess is the best around in my opinion for larger breast. I feel like a new woman when I put it on lol...
ok girl, it must be the jitters your having cause you are totally rocking that dress!!
I think you look fabulous and just wait till u have your hair done and makeup on and don't forget your jewellry and maybe a pretty veil...seriously, you look great! IF your not feeling it, there's always long line bra's and spanx are your friend, but even if you don't get those things, you will be fine! Just breathe, your feeling the pressure of the wedding creeping up and emotions are high!
This dress looks great on you. You will look beautiful so don't worry.
This dress looks great on you. You will look beautiful so don't worry.
Oh sweetie!!! You look GREAT!!!! The way you described it had me expecting to scroll down to a hot sloppy mess. That is NOT the case at all here. You've got a pretty dress that flatters your pretty figure. Go look at that picture again girl so I can tell you what I see. Look how flat your tummy looks!! Look at the great curves at your waist! Can you say hourglass?! I know that all the flattering in the world won't help if you don't feel it. But I wish you could see it. I agree with the girls who said to get a proper undergarment to support your ladies. Boobies make everything better. These heavy dresses drag them down so they need some help getting back to from whence they came. Honestly, I think that before you start stressing yourself about changing the dress, you should probably just get dressed up in hair and makeup and really admire how AWESOME you look. I think you have a distorted image of what's going on with that dress. Because the dress you just posted is anything but unflattering.
Honestly, Hun you look stunning in your dress!! It is gorgeous and very flattering. I think maybe you're justbeing too hard on yourself and the more you look at the photos the more you get unsure. Trust us, you made the right choice with the dress - its perfect!
I totally agree with the long line bra. For one it will make the entire look look better, and two, you will be SO much more comfortable and not worried about popping out all night.
When I bought my dress I tried it on with a long line (I'm a 36G) and it was great. My dress is totally held up only by my boobs so this was totally necessary and worked.
Also - I have to tell you - that dress is soooo pretty on you!!! I know what it's like to have dress regret/anxiety - I feel like everyone gets it - but as a stranger with an unbiased opinion, the dress is very pretty, figure flatting, and it makes you look small in my opinion. :)
also, it took me literally 20 mins to find the link to this thread, but what about what this bee did? I think it looks amazing.
http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/do-you-think-my-dress-would-look-good-with
or maybe a look like this (photo is not mine, found on the boards)
I think you look STUNNING!!!! Its a gorgeous dress and fits you perfectly.
I'm starting to think I DO have a distorted image of myself now after reading all your comments. I REALLY thought the dress wasn't very flattering on me... now, I think it's all in my head and I'm letting my nerves get to me. Thanks so much for the support everyone... I feel a lot better about the dress having had so much feedback on it now. I haven't shown it to anyone before this. :O)
after i read your post i was a litle scared. But you look great! the dress looked beautiful on you. i agree with everyone else, a better bra and some great accessories and you will be unforgetable!
Your dress is gorgeous and looks like it was made for you! You look fantastic in it! The only thing I can suggest is maybe adding a blingy belt? It might help you fall in love with the dress. Good luck!
Just some food for thought....What if you let out the pickups and took in the sides of the skirt so it was more fitted the whole way down? You'd definitely need to ask an experienced seamstress if that can be done. I think it might emphasize your hourglass shape.
I think it looks beautiful! I love the corset back. I agree you need a better bra. Perhaps also a necklace to draw eyes up toward your face.
Its very lovely. Invest in proper undergarments to help enhance your shape. You'll look gorgeous.
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I created this account specifically to write this post in hopes that someone will have some advice. I am having serious dress regret and my wedding is at the end of this month (Feb. 2012).
Some background - my fiance and I got engaged a couple years ago, but only recently chose our wedding date 4 months ago. So, basically that meant that I had to buy my dress off the rack (no time to order one). I am a plus size girl and heard a lot of negative stories about plus size girls trying to find dresses off the rack and being quite unsucessful - so, I kind of put it off until earlier this month. Yeah, I know... not a great idea. Anyways, my first dress fitting experience was terrible. No one helped me figure out my actual size, so all the dresses I pulled didn't fit, then when someone DID eventually help me, she could only find ONE dress in the entire store that fit me (I'm a size 18). After trying on so many dresses, having none fit, feeling defeated, and pretty crappy, I ALMOST broke down and bought the one dress that fit me... just cause it fit me. But, I didn't (thankfully!). I went home feeling pretty crappy and huge and hating myself pretty hard.
The second appointment I had at a different bridal shop was a lot better. They had several dresses to choose from in my size off the rack - however none of them made me feel amazing, and none of them were wanted I envisioned (lace/ivory/ruffles etc) except one. It had a bit of beaded lace near the bust. At the time, I felt pretty ok in it, and thought that since I didnt' have much time left until my actual wedding date (the end of this month... yikes), and since I knew my choices were limited because of my size and that I had to buy off the rack, I went with this dress even though I didn't love it. The price was great as well. I got straps added to it, and called it done.
Now, 3 weeks away from my wedding... I'm feeling a lot of dress regret and am quite mad at myself that I feel like I settled for something that just FIT on me and doesn't actually look good. Looking at photos of the dress now I can't even tell if it's flattering.. or not flattering.. or what! I cannot return it, I don't have the budget for a new dress either. So basically I have to wear it as is.
I accept that I bought the dress and am stuck with it, but I am wondering if anyone has advice on how I can alter it in some way to be more flattering? I dunno... maybe adding some kind of lace over the shoulder straps.. or a back? Would a sash work on a dress like this? I don't know what to do to so that I can at least like it more, since I'm stuck with it. Help?