Post # 1
I’m sure this is normal. It must be. But I have a bit over 3 weeks until the wedding and I’m having a hard time handling all the stress.
FI has helped a lot. He really has. But for the most part, he just leaves things up to me to decide. But then he gets really angry when I ask for outside help. Ex. Asking my mom for her opinion. So then I feel completely alone in all these decisions.
My mom is also super opinionated. She shoots down a lot of my ideas, and in the beginning, I would cave. Now, it just makes me angry and I end up giving her snarky responses and I just can’t help it. Why can she just ever agree with what I want? She sends me these long messages about what she thinks and it just makes me feel bad to disagree.
My dad wants to dance to a song that’s 1 minute long with me. I think it’s too short and it’s also live, which I don’t like. My mom likes the song too, so there’s added pressure. I don’t want a fake audience clapping after. Sorry.
I just want this wedding to be done. I’m tired of feeling so stressed out. I want to be able to breathe again.
How did you bees de-stress??
Post # 3
Wow – I had to read this twice since I was pretty sure i didnt write it, but it sounds soooo much like my situation as well. Scary.
I am seriously just closing my eyes counting to ten and hoping that whatever was stressful in the moment cant see me anymore and goes away.
My “Surprise” shower is this Sunday. Even though my mother specifically told me about it, but is now upset at me that i wont act surprised when i show up. Litterally she wanted me to practice my surprised face on a trip out to my final dress fitting. And when i told her that i wasnt practicing anything since its not a surprise, and if she wanted me to have a surprise face, she herself should not have told me about it. And then got mad at me when i wasnt going to pretend/lie to everyone that i didnt know about it before hand. Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr. Rage!
My future MIL isnt even going to be coming to my shower since she would rather volunteer her time at a trade show this weekend, but instead is making a big deal about seeing us before we leave for our elopement. Im like WTF. you had the chance to see me at my shower but found better things to do with your time, so now i have to fit into my already packed schedule to go out to her house. Sit around have awkward silence and count the minutes until i can leave. GRRRRRRRRRRRR. RAGE!
Sorry i have nothing constructive to help both our stresses. But if you figure out a trick I would love to hear it. but it sounds like if the two of us are in the same sort of boat it must be normal.
If all else fails try booze
Post # 4
@steene222: I guess it’s good to know I’m not alone, but I’m sorry you’re going through it too! You’d think that people would be trying to alleviate the stress, not maximize it, right?
I just seriously want to be on my honeymoon already.
Post # 5
Totally. its 28 in Vegas right now and making me sooo excited. So excited to be somwhere warm and not raining! haha.
The next 3 weeks cant get here fast enough.
Post # 6
- Wedding: September 2014 - Banff, Alberta
My mom didn
t agree with a lot of my ideas at first either but when I explained my reasoning she came around. It took a while for her to see my side of things but it was good to have someone to sort of be the devils advocate to help me really understand why i needed to do some things a certain way.
Stand up for what you think is important and explain your point of view. Try to be understanding and listen to what she has to say but if it is really not what you want then stand your ground.
Post # 7
@Pixienickie: Thank you. It’s easier said than done, but I think I did well yesterday.
Oh man am I a mess though. I really feel so bad for FI. He has the pleasure of living with me when I’m like this.