Post # 1
I am seriously feeling a Bridezilla moment coming on. Everyone has waited until the last minute to contact me via my mother, father, or camel (kidding…I kid) that they want to know how to get there, when the ceremony starts, when the reception starts… Oh my freaking gawd. This is why I sent wedding invitations with a link to the wedding website which has directions, menu, specifics on times, etc. And why in the world are they contacting my parents? They have my phone number and e-mail!
To top it all off, we have one person in our wedding party sans car, so I have to pick him up the day before for rehearsal and the day of the wedding in the AM when I go on my donut run for the Bridal breakfast. No big deal, right? Hah! One of his housemates, another dear friend of ours, is also car less and ride less…So I have to have her around the house and taking her up in our car caravan to the wedding and home in our caravan. I’m going to seriously have to figure whose riding with who the morning of, because one of my bridesmaids abhors said friend for personal reasons. Can’t we all be adults and just get along? I doubt it. I feel the Bridezilla moment welling in my chest already at having to probably tell them both to grow a pair and stop being babies on Thursday. I shouldn’t have to manage and/or anticipate adults acting like children on my wedding day, and it makes me so mad.
Okay, end rant. Advice, bees?
Post # 3
I really don’t think that’s a Bridezilla moment. That is a fully justified “I HATE WHEN PEOPLE ARE SO @#$%ING INCONSIDERATE AND CAN’T DO ANYTHING BY THEMSELVES IN PROPER TIME!” moment.
oh and good grief, beggars can’t be choosers if they don’t have rides.
Post # 4
People are idiots. Breathe. For real, take a few deep breaths.
I suggest you or FI delegate someone else in the wedding party to pick up the car-less ones.
Post # 5
they are probably contacting your parents so that you don’t have to deal with it 4 days before your wedding!
I had a friend text me on the morning of my wedding asking what he should wear, lol people are so dumb somtimes
Post # 6
- Wedding: October 2013 - The Down Town Club, Philadelphia
Delegate, delegate, delegate!
And change your outgoing voicemail message to include the link to your wedding website.
Stop answering the phone and just text replies to everyone.
They will get the hint. Hopefully.
(and I don’t think you are being a bridezilla, AT ALL)
Post # 7
You write: “So I have to have her around the house and taking her up in our car caravan to the wedding and home in our caravan”
No you don’t! It is *her* responsibility to get to and from the wedding, not yours.
Also, since the groomsman is presumably FI’s friend, why isn’t FI picking him up?
Post # 8
@paula1248: FI is spending time with her sister at sister’s hotel room before the wedding, so she doesn’t “see” me before we get to the wedding. Also, sister is in the bridal party and is coming all the way from Denver. The two rarely get sibling time, and never alone, so this bonding time to me is worth more than having her run around getting her bridesman.
I really don’t MIND picking up the carless people, but I naively thought they would find alternate transport (except for the bridesman, I expected we’d have to cart him around, LOL.)
Post # 9
@Firenze: Ah, I made a gender assumption, sorry!
Post # 10
@paula1248: Totally fine, I didn’t include her gender in the OP. 🙂
Post # 11
@strawbs: I love your description of the emotion I am feeling right now. It’s spot on.
I realize that people are trying to contact my parents to “make it easier on me,” but it really doesn’t, because my parents only know when and where they’re supposed to be, not the entire schedule for the rehearsal, and day of….which is what some nosy people are asking for.