Post # 1
Well our surprise vacation is creeping up, im very excited about going away, but in the back of my mind I dont’t think it will happen which has me a little down. I went to a friends bridal shower yesturday and i should have been happy but i was feeling down because i want to be getting married. One friend i brought with me is getting married as well so theyre talking weddings and im a little left out. I got asked a few times when i was getting married, and i was kinda snarky about it.. i didnt mean to be but i hate being asked that question, its like “you know what I DONT KNOW!!!!! LAY OFF” but of course you cant yell at them.. blah waiting sucks..sucks BIG time.. sorry need to vent to someone who wont be offended because they’re engaged and thinks im being stupid…
Post # 3
I kinda went through the same thing with people asking…all i said was “the time isnt right yet, when it is, we’ll be engaged” and that usually shuts people up. For us the timing really wasnt right; Fiance was still in the process of getting his masters and we still needed to go through a big out of state move and get jobs before “settling” down.
Have you guys talked about getting married/engaged at all?
Post # 4
we have, alot and he takes me to the jewellery store and it seems like sometimes he is teasing me..so i dont know how to feel. i know he wants to marry me but i wish i had a time line..
Post # 5
Ugh, that sucks. It is so annoying when people make assumptions!
Post # 6
My big problem is my family has no idea that my SO and I are as serious as we actually are, that we have a set time (Summer of 2015) that we’d like to marry.
So they’re almost overly sensitive. And make sure never to say anything about the SO or engagements/weddings etc. And all I want to do is scream, “This is the guy I’m planning to marry!!”
But it’s a cousin’s fiance’s wedding shower, so I just smiled and took notes on what to do when it’s my turn… *sigh*
Post # 7
Yeah.. waiting sucks…
For one, its like every commercial on TV and the radio is a wedding/engagement related thing (ok.. not everyone.. but often enough to sting).
A few years ago it was really painful watching my brother (by adoption, same age as me) get married after about a year of dating his then girlfriend, when my SO and I had already been together for 3 years at that time with no ring in sight. I love my brother, but I was pretty sad for myself. And then things started to turn sour for them, and I just felt sorry for them. So now that their divorce is almost finalized, I hope he will give his next relationship more time before jumping into a proposal. I know my time is coming. And I would rather be happy with my SO still waiting after all these years than in the midst of a bitter divorce with a nice wedding in my past.