- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
This is my first post ever. So here goes.
Im having trouble with my bridesmaids well just one in particular my Maid/Matron of Honor.
Been 4 weeks from my wedding, i dont need to be dealing with this drama.
Im thinking about asking them to step down or giving them the option to do so.
I asked my 2 of 3 bridesmaids not long after i became engaged, BAD MISTAKE.
We all worked together and everything was great, until the day i left to a job out of town. From then we hardly speak to each other, dont see each other. Its been 6 months since i left.
As a bride i thought is was understandable to be able to get a little help here and there. not once did i ask to much of them.
My Maid/Matron of Honor said she would plan my hens night with the other bridesmaid. well 4 weeks out from my wedding- no hens night as yet. It has been cancelled 3 times now because she hasnt orgainsed anything or spoke to any of my friends to ask them to come, i have friends calling me asking whats going on, when is it.
I text all the time asking whats happening with it, try to call in and see her. either no reply and she’s not home after i texted and said i would drop in and have a chat about things.
I have solved that problem i have my fiance’s brother’s girlfriend is planning it for me with another friend. (The 2 girls i was originally was going to have as my bridesmaid) Im annoyed as i should i waited and went with my gut.
Anyways last tuesday i spoke with Maid/Matron of Honor and we organised to catch up with her and the other bridesmaid. Thats when everything hit the fan.
I originally went in there to discuss the hens night and my issues about why it hasnt been done and that my other friend was happy to help her out if she was to busy ect.
please Note- MY Maid/Matron of Honor had a rough time ealier in the year with a broken jaw one night out and hasnt i guess really gotten over it. Ive tried talkin to her about it and try to get her to open up. But no. In my opinion shes be great.
So as we were talking Maid/Matron of Honor starts yelling me about how i dont call, text her or ask how she is going. telling me she is having a hard time ect. And blamind everything on me as this is my fault. Even going off the topic of my hens night to complete random stuff. My other maid just stands and says nothing what so ever but is blaming me as well. The thing is she can say one thing to me but when Maid/Matron of Honor is there she says the complete opisite. She has came to a bridal expo and a make up trial. But my Maid/Matron of Honor has not been to one thing i have asked her to go to. such as make up and hair trials, bridal expos, i just though it would be great girls day out.
She just makes excuses and that. I was angry and hurt on the day but now im not i couldnt really care if i dont speak to them again.
I have other 2 girls i originally wanted that could replace them.
I dont want any hurt feelings between us but i have to do whats needed for my sake and for the wedding. I dont want to have any problems or issues on our day.
My fiance’ doesnt have a problem with this choice because he knows whats she like.
I dont feel like im getting the support thats needed by them, id rather have 2 people stand up there with me and be a good friend, supportive.
What your opinions. has anyone done this 4 weeks from your wedding day.
Thats my only concern that i only have 4 weeks to go. Do i suck it up or replace them????
So much has changed between us in the past year.
Anyone help would be great. It would good to hear from people that i dont or people who doesnt know them.