Post # 1
Yesterday was mine and my SO’s 4 yr anniversary since we got together. He invited me over to his rents for dinner and a couple of our friends (who are newlyweds) joined us. As usual, the topic of conversation was all about weddings and rings. It got so bad that our friend asked my SO where the ring was, and his mother followed it up by saying “yea, Paul, wheres the ring”. I didn’t know what to do…..AWKWARD! A good night overall but a lot of stress with the “waiting”. He said that we’re going to celebrate our 4 yr on the weekend; go for dinner. It’s just a dinner though; really no chance of a proposal.
Do you guys find that a lot of the pressure comes from your friends that are already married and have taken the next step in their lives (kids etc)?!?
Post # 3
My friends used to say things like that after 4-5 years. Fiance didn’t propose until our 7-year anniversary though! Hang in there, it’s going to be so worth the wait. =)
Post # 4
Yep. Lots of pressure. From very random people sometimes! And you’re stronger than me, I’d be in bits by now!
Post # 5
That definitely sounds like an awkward evening — and what a way to ruin your anniversary. I really don’t understand why people think it’s okay to ask questions like that. I guess they think it’s cute, but I don’t think they realize how mush strain it can put on people, especially women who are already stressed about waiting and men who are feeling pressure from their girlfriends. And yes, it always seems to be from people who are already married.
Post # 6
What was his response when they asked where the ring was? Maybe dinner will have a surprise for dessert 😉
Post # 7
That’s so awkward! My SO and I have been together for almost 5 years, I have been ready to get married for the last 2 or so, and his family has been ready for us to make it official for about as long! I try to be really good about not making comments in their presence, because they will rag on him and that is just not fair. I go back and forth between how frustrated I feel with waiting but in the end it has to happen on his timeline and work for us financially – so as much as I want to vent my frustration, I wind up reminding myself that I need support him emotionally when that kind of awkward stuff happens! I get that people are curious, but if you’re like us people need to realize that after a couple years of asking, it’s obviously a private matter between the couple. /End rant, sorry!
Post # 8
Awkward! Yeah we get asked ALL the time!! You just have to let it roll off your back or it will drive you crazy.
Post # 9
His response was “uh, it’s getting hot in here…going for a smoke. haha I wont count on a special dessert! He’s not against it, he just wants everything on his own time. He’s an only child and I understand where his mom is coming from as she wants to see us married and she wants grandchildren. I feel bad about the pressure and I really try not to pressure him, but it’s difficult.
He gave me a timeline a yr or 2 back but he totally missed it, as he said he wanted to be married by 31 and he’ll be 31 in May and we’re not even engaged yet :/