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So went seriously to look at wedding dresses yesterday. And I swear that each person had a different opinion!!!! So now I'm just overwhelmed. I thought that I wanted something simple, but I found one that I like that is a little more elaborate. But then I feel self conscious because I am over 40 (or will be), don't feel that way, this is our second wedding each and we have kids. Is there an "appropriate" dress to wear?
On my wedding day, I was 56 and my wife was 41. Nevertheless, both of us wore ivory wedding dresses, veils, and opera gloves. What is "appropriate" is what makes you feel beautiful.
I agree, that you want to wear something that makes you feel beautiful.
If you are worried about "approriate" look for something that has the detail and is elaborate, but maybe with wider straps?
What kind of detail and elaborate dresses did you like? bead? lace? pickups? Maybe we can find a great compromise?
Wear what makes you feel like a bride, since that's what you will be! You'll be gorgeous no matter what dress you're in, so just make sure you feel good in it.
I will be 40 when I get married (I said that in your other thread), and I have an 18 year old son, I am wearing a sparkly ball gown. At first, I thought like you did, and bought a much simpler gown, but when I couldn't get the big pretty gowns out of my head the FH was the one that convinced me to get whatever I wanted. I am so glad that he did. The second I put on the ballgown, I just knew it was the right one for me.
This is what I will be wearing. (it actually has crystal on it in person)
Do what makes you happy. I know sometimes it's hard when you are in a dressing room sandwiched between two 25 year olds (yep, just happened to me). But you know what? I've learned a lot since I was their age. I know who I am and what I want. Listen to your inner voice (sorry this sounds so sappy!) and you'll find the right dress.
@blu77: See, I had an advantage on that aspect. Any time I went into a bridal salon, I could be assured that at least one of the brides next to me would be my own NotFroofy, so I never worried about the 25-year-olds. ;-)
You can wear any dress you want on your wedding day, IMO. I will be just barely 51 on our wedding day, and this is the dress I will be wearing.
Oh I posted mine so many times! But since you asked... I turned 50 the day after the wedding.
I LOVEEEEEEEEE the first one on you, but are you getting it tailored a wee bit? It looks a little big on your upper half.
Both gorgeous dresses :)
PS: I will be 40-41 when I get married and if I am not pregnant the first one is my dress and if I am pregnant, I want something along the lines of the second dress
This is mine and I'm 40. I think you can have whatever dress you want!
A wedding is and always has been a celebration and it is not reserved for 20 somethings or first time brides or anyone.
If you look at marriage traditions for both 1st time brides and widows out of mourning in the 1800's they were much more a joyful celebration of the occasion than a long list of rules and regulations. Etiquette was followed but it was standard for the day. Now matrons were not supposed to wear bright colors and look hoochy and widows out of mourning were supposed to follow that stricture but other than that some of the weird rules we have now did not exist.
OK getting of my soap box . . .
When I went wedding dress shopping I tried on more "age appropriate" dresses and none of them wowed me, my daughter or the bridal consultants. Now I looked pretty good in many of them but I tried on over 50 dresses before I found the "one" - it is probably not age appropriate but it is me appropriate and that is what should rule your day :)
I have posted me in the sample 1000 times and it is snug but I have lost weight since I tried on dresses and ordered a size up from the sample . . .
I also think you should wear what makes you feel beautiful and confident. You should choose a dress you love...just don't take it too over the top if you can't pull it off confidently...cause you'll hold yourself funny and you'll be uncomfortable...but I say wear what you want...I will be 45 and here is my dress.
I'm 44 and i love the fairytale of a wedding so i picked a cotoure low waisted ballgown with a sweetheart neckline. I wish i had a picture to post, but im still waiting on it to come. My friends told me not to get the diamond white becaues it was too white, but i wanted it and so i ordered it. Go for what looks good to you and good luck
I will be 40 when I get married and I am going to marry whatever I feel beautiful in. Really. I don't care much for ensuring that it looks "my age" or anything. I just want to feel like the most beautiful woman alive for that one single day :)
I think rather than worrying about whether a dress is age appropriate, think about whether the dress is ceremony appropriate. What is the feeling you want at your ceremony?
Like others have said. Wear the dress that makes you feel beautiful. Wedding dresses by definition are more elaborate than everyday wear, so I don't think there is such a thing as 'age appropriate' when it comes to wedding dresses.
I'm 42 and getting married (second marriage) next week on April 16, 2011 on Lido Beach. I definately wanted THE dress for my wedding as I am certainly marrying the man of my dreams. I wanted to dream dress to go with it!!! I'm wearing Maggie Sottero Ambrosia with a cathedral length beaded veil.
Wear what YOU want to wear!! It's your day! ;-D Here are some pics... I'll post more after the wedding.
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when i get married next May i wil be 51. and i will be wearing this dress....just because i will be 51, doesnt mean i dont want to look good for my man, and feel like a princess inside.
Well Bees, I was going to comment on a photo one of you posted, but as I scrolled down and read further, I'm finding it impossible not to comment on all of these beautiful gowns!!
I agree that what is most important is how you feel in the dress. And to respond to the original post, I swear that each person had a different opinion!!!! So now I'm just overwhelmed. Do you feel beautiful? Comfortable? Special? Then stick to your instinct and listen to what You want.
Here's mine, BTW!! 
thank you soooooo much. it arrived today! but i havent had the chance to try it on. well i have tried the top on and the skirt, but couldnt do the corset back up. :(
Wear what makes you feel beautiful! 
I was 41 at the time of my wedding.
Not quite 40 here, but not far off. Not doing something "too young" was a concern for me.
I wanted something that made me feel like a grown up in an evening dress...not to flouncy...partly b/c that's my taste, and partly because I think that when something crosses an age-appropriate line, it actually ages me. I know the right answer is "whatever you like", but what I actually feel pretty in isn't the same anymore as what I like on younger girls.
You 40+ ladies look fabulous in your dress choices! Rock on!
I don't yet but I like the two dresses now. Its so hard if I was young it would be easy..but I will be almost 42 I am 40 now going on 41 soon.. Bought the sabelle my honey hated it.
I know the right answer is "whatever you like", But I want to feel
elegant and age appropriate
I found a dress my honey likes finaly yea!!!!!!!!!
allure 8769
next weekend I will have photos of me in the last two photos.
I'm 46 and have been obsessing about what dress to pick. I always thought that you had to wear an ivory suit for a second wedding (yuck!), but now I've seen that you can wear anything!
I personally still would not want to wear pure white. And to me, chiffon (though I love the fabric) feels too much like a nightgown. I'm a no-makeup, jeans and t-shirt kind of woman, so anything with lots of lace or sparkle or ruffle just felt like a costume, and I want to feel comfortable. My fiance's only request was that I wear something off-the-shoulder.
Here is the dress I keep coming back to, and which I am going to order today, in ivory. In lieu of the rhinestone brooch, I'm going to sew on a collection of vintage ivory buttons. I'm ridiculously happy that it's got pockets. I also love that it's silk shantung (not polyester) and that it's made in the USA.
@Noffsinger: OMG!! Your Allure dress was the first one I ordered, but I had a feeling in the pit of my stomache that it wasn't the right dress for me when my sweetie got an accidental look at it and didn't like it at all...he had no idea what he had done. I quietly called the bridal salon and told her I couldn't wear that dress!!! I ended up with Ambrosia after being torn btween Ambrosia & Sabelle, I knew I made the right choice when I put on that gorgeous dress on my wedding day!
You look stunning in the Allure dress! It's truely beautiful!
junestorm thank you ,I was devastated when I brought home the Sabelle maggie sottero
my honey did not like it I loved it so I feel you on that one but you look gorgeous in your Ambrosia and our guys know us best.Now have to sell this one...
@melifilms: It's by Aria Dresses. http://ariadress.com/Desciptions/Desc121FB.htm
@dmcanespy: I have a thng for pockets, on gowns, on everything! Pretty please post pics when you get your dress in!
I just wanted to say, that all of your dresses look beautiful! None of you look the age you really are...I would have guessed that most of you are atleast 10 years younger than what you posted! ;]
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