- 7 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
I apologize that this is off the beaten path, but I am just looking for some insight and I figure you ladies can help me out.
My siblings and I (age: 30, 28, 26) are planning a surprise 40th anniversary party for my parents this upcoming October. It will be a surprise party with about 40 guests at a fun wine and cheese bar and restaurant with dinner and drinks. We just recently thought that if people are interested in giving our parents a gift, we could come up with a group gift they could contribute towards. This led to us deciding to send our parents away over Columbus Day weekend on a honeymoon they never had.
Sidenote/cute story: my parents had a small, 30-person wedding in 1971. Afterwards they drove from MA to New Husband to spend the weekend on a honeymoon. However, they forgot that it was Columbus Day weekend, got all the way up there and everything was booked.
This has quickly spiraled out of control and my sister and I are now butting heads. She feels that each couple needs to contribute $100 towards the group gift. She has made reservations at a hotel that cost over $1,000 for two nights. She now would like to include along with the invite a card, similar to a RSVP card, that has four check boxes indicating whether they would like to contribute $50, $100, $150, or an “Other” amount towards the group gift.
She thinks this is totally okay and appropriate and I think it is horribly tacky and extremly inappropriate. I definitely do not expect guests to bring a gift.
Does anyone have experience with this?