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Without knowing your body shape and how you are built I dont know of any specific dresses to recommend. However sleeves have been successfully added to many a dress. Have you thought about a vintage dress? Like from the fifties? My dear friend who got married at 45 wore one and it was darling.
Agree with PP.
Sleeves and bolero jackets are super easy to add to something you like.
What sort of style do you think you like? Silk? chiffon? Corset? Flowy?
http://www.szweddinggowns.com/wedding-gowns/wedding-dresses-with-sleeves/
Hello, welcome to the hive!
try this site http://www.onceuponadressbridal.com/?page_id=705
and Etsy is fantastic http://www.etsy.com/ with etsy just type in wedding dress with sleeves
i found this on etsy and it is stunning
First I have to ask...what do you mean by "looking like a brautwurst"?? Are you saying you dont want anything fitted? I am plus size, and trust me...ball gowns will only make you look bigger. I would recommend an A line or fitted gown.
If you want to go with sleeves, I highly recommend the "Bliss" line from Bonny Bridal. These dresses have sleeves without looking stuffy. Click on this link:
http://www.bonny.com/collections/bliss
Welcome to the Bee and congrats on your engagement!
I'm a 42yr old first time bride and I guess I'm on the edge of plus size at size 16. What I'm wearing may be to Cinderella for you but there are a lot of choices out there. Take a deep breath. I'm sure you will find what you are looking for.
Here is what I'm wearing.
It has a corset back which is very slimming.
I am wearing something similar to this to cover my arms and for modesty.
There are lots or choices out there for sleves and cover ups. Just start google searching and you will be amazed at what's out there. Good luck!
Thanks for your suggestions! I feel better already! Just having a small moment of panic... I guess I can't be the only one with wedding related freak outs. Oh, and you're dresses are gorgeous!
What kinds of dresses do you like? You may want to surf in the 30 and 40 something forums for dress ideas...
I like this E How Video on dress picking tips for an older bride: http://www.ehow.com/video_5539043_wedding-dress-ideas-older-brides.html
@Keisha In Love: I am an older bride and I do not agree with the video.
OP - Please pop over to the 40 boards and peruse the dress posts - you will see all sorts of dresses and styles that we are choosing. You need to find a dress that you love that fits your vision of the special day that you want to have. This is your wedding - wear what you love.
I found that the dresses that were appropriate for older brides made me look well older - I have a good figure and do not need to cover up. So go try on things - pick your venue and your theme and then make sure you fall in love with a dress that is you.
Not for an older bride but you for the beautiful person you are inside and out - and let us know how the search goes!!!
ETA - I rewatched that video and thought it was very condescending and sterotypical of older brides :( ugh
I was 56 and plus sized on my wedding day, and I found a dress! David's Bridal tends to have sample dresses in all sizes. Also, Google "modest wedding dresses" if you want a bit more cover-up on the arms.
I am in my 40s and plus sized also, and this is what I wore:
I also had trouble finding plus-size samples to try. I originally wanted a full-blown ball gown, but they made me look ginormous. Like one of the pps suggested, an A line (which is what my gown is) would be a good choice. However, I also really encourage you to at least try on a Fit-and-Flare style. I did not even consider it, and there are times now when I really wish I had at least had the opportunity to see myself in one.
I had my dress made by someone on etsy and I'm thrilled with the results. Try sketching out what you'd like then try to find it.
Im 54 plus size- and encore bride- I was happy in this. and it was less than $200 from a chinese online place- custom fitted.
Certainly did not mean to offend anyone! I am an older bride also (38) - and while I did not like some of the dresses in the video, I certainly was not offended by it.... Best of luck in your dress search OP!
I am 43, encore bride (first wedding 24 years ago) and I was 100% against "Cinderella/ball gown". My top is much bigger than my bottom (16-18 vs 10-12) so I am well into plus size and they will alter as needed. I was absolutely dreading dress shopping!!! I had my daughter (23 and who is the only person that will tell me I look bad when I do) drag me into a bridal shop just to "try one on to get an idea". Well I tried on 4 or 5 and they were surprisingly OK. They were what I had in mind, A line, more mature, not white--ivory or champagne...and on the wall in my dressing room was a gorgeous white ball gown with hand beading and crystals and strapless which I was avoiding, so I said, well I'm undressed, just for fun I'll try it on as a lark. Of COURSE it was the one! As soon as I stepped out on the pedestal everyone gasped, my daughter teared up and I just got the feeling everyone talks about when you try on YOUR gown.
It's this one--the shop owner said it is a good choice for top coverage, she can easily do alterations to the bodice which is the area I need it most because of the size difference in bust/waist, and also gave me a max alteration cap guarantee so I know it won't be $$$ in alterations.
Casablanca 2033. Pics don't do it justice and like I said, I never EVER would have picked it out online. So the best I can tell you is throw your ideas out the window and just try random styles on because you never know! You will be beautiful!
here is the link, also look around their site they have a ton of gowns and most if not all are available in plus sizes.
@Ms.S: I'm going to reiterate a lot of what has already been said. Try different shapes and styles of dresses on and see what you like-because what you like is what is most important. It is super easy to add a bolero or modified sleeves to most dresses-so don't let that deter you.
Check out this thread for some inspiration:
http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/plus-size-show-us-your-dress
I'm also 40 and plus sized, no one thought what I wore was inappropriate or that I looked bad.
Go to David's or Alfred ANgelo and try on everything!! I must have tried on 30+ dresses (I went 2 different times once with MOH and once with Mom). I tried on stuff that I was convinced would look horrible and was shocked that it looked awesome.
When you go, make sure you have make up on and some lipstick (get the kind that doesn't rub off, the long lasting stuff) and something to hold back your hair.
You will find something that will look beautiful on you!
Try the juliette collection by Mori Lee - not expensive many choices - my dress was great
This is my dress. I'm 41. I've seen it on every possible figure type and it looks gorgeous. You can get a bolero or have sleeves added. It's from David's Bridal.
I would encourage you to look at their website. A lot of reviews include photos of dresses on real brides.
@mousegirl: Thanks. I have been on the fence about it. I have even considered selling it. I have my first fitting Thursday and am hoping I can love it again.
@Ms.S: How's your search going? Any luck?
Yikes! why is 40 an "older" bride? and 38?? I'm 37 and by no means I'm an "older" bride!
@Ms.S: Don't panic, there's not only a dress out there for you, there's a WONDERFUL dress out there for you. You will find it. Just be patient and surf the web a lot in order to find out what you like. You may even be surprised at how flattering some styles may be. Try to think of the parts of your body that you like the best, there's always something to emphasize that day.
I hate my arms and I’m working on them right now, and I’ve been obsessed about finding a dress with sleeves. However I found out that there’s many strapless dresses that can have sleeves added very easily. How about an off the shoulder line? I’m also full figured and working on slimming for my big day, but more important… your soon to be husband loves you and wants to see YOU walk down the aisle, not a model, just you. Try to relax a bit and enjoy the process!
@Nikicol: I think it's because we are older than the bridal average
I would go for something less traditonal a but more confident and sexy like the ones here: http://wowthemevents.blogspot.com/2012/02/encore-bridal-gowns.html
I too am a 40 something first time bride. I am full figured and fablous. Here is my dress, from David's. It was introuded at the end of the summer.....
Good luck!
Hey there! Here are two dresses from David's Bridal that I love love love!
I think both are beautiful! Very classy =) Good luck on your search
@ncbellle: I tried on the second one, the tea-length with the bolero, and absolutely LOVED it on. I'm a size 20, age 51. It was really flattering and I came thisclose to buying it, but ended up going with a second-hand dress that I loved a teeny bit more!
I'll be a 50+ first time bride, here's my dress. Wear what you feel comfortable in and don't be afraid to shine
Allure has a "Modest" Collection and a "Women" Collection, The Modest all have sleeves and the Women are all for Plus sized ladies :)
This is my fave Allure Dress from the Women's Collection ^^
Try on anything that you like, and don't be afraid to let your consultant suggest dresses. She does this all the time, for all ages, body types, sizes, etc and knows what she's talking about.
I am 41, plus-size, and this will be my second marriage. My dress breaks absolutely EVERY rule in that silly video. It's form-fitting, strapless, and has a chapel-length train. And, honestly, it is nothing I would have picked out for myself. Score one for my consultant.
Have fun with it; just because we're not 20 anymore doesn't mean that we can't get excited like those "younger" brides do!
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I'm a 40 year old, never been married, just recently engaged. I've been looking at a bunch of dress sites, and am absolutely disheartened at the prospect of finding a dress that will make me feel and look beautiful on my big day. I am plus size and 40. I have no desire to look like a bratwurst in my wedding pictures! I want a beautiful dress, but I cannot find anything with sleeves, or that isn't made for a 20 year old, or someone who is trying to be Cinderella. I'm happy for you if that's what you want, but it isn't what I want. Does anyone have any ideas or suggestions of websites where I can get some new ideas? Thanks in advance!