Post # 1
So This week has been an overwhelming in my face “OoooMmmmGggg the wedding is next month”. Currently at 44 days and counting…. I feel like I have so much to still ahhhhhhhhhhhh. I did my hair and makeup trail and thats when it really hit home, and I tried on my full outfit for the first time (dress, shoes, side piece, and veil), it was a bit emotional.
I also had a moment when I was typing out names in my seating card template and when I typed in mine I realized “wait… my last name wont be ____ at the reception”, and I typed out my new name….AHHHHHHH lol
How is everyone else feeling?
Post # 3
49 days for us. I’m doing okay. Still have a few things left to do. Stopped by our ceremony site yesterday to check it out and see where things could be put, only to find a giant wooden structure had been built there (almost like a stage for a play). Thankfully, it’s just for the Shakespeare in the park that they’re doing (though we could have used it just fine) and will be gone in a couple of weeks.
Still freaking out about money. FI REALLY needs to talk to his parents about getting payments made and he just…won’t. I understand why he doesn’t want to, but it’s gotta happen. Trying to figure out how we’re going to get our marriage license.
I’ll be doing my hair and makeup trial and trying on my whole outfit in a week!
Post # 4
36 days here. I feel…pretty good. I don’t think I’m behind on anything or stressed about what still needs to be done. I’m off of work today and have made it my mission to finish the last couple of things I can do here (our wedding is taking place across the country from where we live, so I have a lot of things I can’t finish up until we get there the week before the wedding). I’ve been shipping “wedding things” to FILs’ house over the past year or so, so I’m just worried we’re going to arrive 6 days before the wedding and I’m going to be opening boxes and being like “holy sh*t, what is all of this stuff and what did I want to do with it again??”
Post # 5
@vorpalette: I hear that! My FI parents haven’t told us how much they are contributing yet lol…. I’m like ahhhh…ok….so Im just gonna go on the notion of NOTHING just in case.
Its so frustrating, but FI doesnt want to put pressure on them. I said we dont need or expect it but it would be NICE TO KNOW just so I can figure out a few things….(and if they are I wont be as stressed out). ARGH
We did pick out and order our wedding bands yesterday, and I finished the card box (yeah finally).
Although Im having a bit of an internal freakout… FI parents brough him this “material” back form italy to have his suit made (apparently thats the norm there) AND I KINDA THOUGHT it was a bit shiny (you know like all the celebs are wearing these days) and the tailor finished putting together the big bones so we went for a fitting…and HOLY MOTHER OF PEARL…. it is like freaking SHINY!! As in I feel like I need to legit warn my photographer, people are going ot be talking about his suit more then my dress, and he… looks like a pimp lol. I had no idea what to say…and he is in LOVE with it, and so is his family….. I had NO words….and they all looked at me like “why arnt you saying anything”….FMIL pipes in “oh shes just in SHOCK because its so beautiful and she cant believe it”…..
YA…IM IN SHOCK ALL RIGHT!!!! oie
@ejay15: haha yes, that kinda happened at my friends wedding a few weeks ago…we started unpacking what felt like 100 boxes or stuff and she got really overwhelmed. Just make a list of what you can remember you have and what its for now just so its easier when the time comes….and have a list for helpers cause we were opening things and had no idea where they were supposed to go, and the poor bride had like 15 ppl trying to ask her everything at once 😉
Post # 6
@shanbp: ahhh you are a saint for just staying speechless over the suit. I don’t know how I would feel about it, but considering your FI loves it, it doesn’t sound like you want to put up a fight. Good for you…you’re a better woman than I am! Also, THANK YOU for that awesome tip to make a list now for everything I’ve had shipped there. I will definitely be doing that for our coordinator’s and my sanities.
Post # 7
@ejay15: your welcome… lol as for the suit…. Im just speechless lol. Like the whole story is they are from italy but have lived here in canada for like 25 years, but they go back to see family etc… his dad goes just bfr christmas and comes back with this material…. and It seemed at the time there wasnt going to be enough so I wasnt concerned, but apparently NOT the case 🙁
FI doesnt want to know anything about my dress but I told him you need to know its ivory so make sure you get an IVORY shirt. Once this whole suit thing started to come together his parents started HAMMERING how he needs a stark white shirt “its the best”, blah blah, (even my mom commented like wtf? your the bride, most men dont even know wtf they’re wearing) …anywho, my FI could see I was upset (and Im not one of those people whos obsessed with matching colours its just MY dress is very vintagy looking, lace, crystals etc… so I wanted SOMETHING to tie us together, I didnt think it was much to ask given I was told NO CHOICE about the suit.
so FI asked me about it and I gave him my true option trying not to hurt his feelings…but he got upset…. saying “well this is my wedding too and I feel like what I want doesnt matter and Im just completely meaningless in this whole thing, it seems to be all about YOU and what you want” ….
um….. NO actually your parents are the ones making you feel that way since what WE decided they changed and now they are hammering it into your brain you HAVE to do this and this…” He was actually perfectly fine with getting an ivory shirt and a “normal material” custom suit until they stuck their faces in it.
anyways we are going to look RIDICULOUS together and Ive made my concerns clear……FI knows how I feel, but he also does deserve to feel like a million bucks at our wedding…. so I feel like I’d be a complete COW if I say something now…. 🙁 We’re both going to look amazing …..SEPERATLY…..
He was soooooooooo happy when he put it on… I just couldnt bring myself….i just stood there with my jaw on the floor… lmao, for all the opposite reasons they thought hahahahhaa.
*sigh* ill post pics from the wedding when it happens. Maybe it wont be as bad as I think, I’m more annoyed that we had a whole plan and because his parents decided to take over and SHOW OFF… its all gone to hell. Am I so mad I could spit? yes, but Im only going to hurt him if I say anything and we’re past the point of no return.
Post # 8
August 17, 2013 is my date too! I feel like there is a ton left to do, but at the same time it all seems to be falling into place very well. It’s coming so soon!
Post # 9
I’m August 16th and I’m starting to feel so overwhelmed. When we first set a date back in November, I thought it would feel like forever before the day was here, but now I feel just the opposite! I feel like time is speeding up! To top it off, I just got my first full time job (only PT previously) so I lost a ton of free time I was counting on to get stuff done. Now I’m rescheduling meetings with vendors, hair appts, etc. due to a changing work schedule. Yikes! But I am excited too!
Post # 10
@mrsquigley8-17-13: I know!! I have a huge spreadsheet of things left and its a LOT, but most of it are little things, but then theres somewhat time consuming things like “plan out the whole ceremony with the priest”, making the ceremony programs, which I cant do until the former is done, get marriage license which cant happen until the end of the month, pick out my jewelry, make pew markers, make a day of schedule for guys and gals, send itinerary to limo company, make certain appts etc….thats only the start.
lol, it feels so overwhelming right now …. *big breathe*…. I really wish it was after work so I could have a wine… but realistically I need to hit the gym instead because Im getting married next month and I still need to get in shape
Post # 11
@shanbp: You pretty much nailed it! I’m really looking forward to the day I can think about things other than what’s on my wedding to do list or what I need to order and so on. The last month is going to be some serious gym crunch time. Got to keep working on the wedding arms!!