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455 MILLION thank yous to write

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
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    Yay - stop being a weirdo, haul your butt to Michaels/Target/Walmart and buy some more. : (5 votes)
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    Nay - Dude, is it REALLY that important that the card actually be a store bought thank you card? : (41 votes)
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    Lish    October 10th, 2009   Memphis, TN

    I appreciate everything my soon-to-be-combined GIANT family of in-laws and regular folks have done for me leading up to my shower.
    I've spent hundreds on thank you notes and am out!
    Tell me bluntly and truthfully - because I'll be honest, I'm SOOOO tired of spending money - if it's cheap for me to send out personalized thank yous on stationary that is embossed with my current name and address?
    I have tons of gorgeous stationary - I'm a paper person - but just can't gauge the etiquette on this one.  (or much of anything else with the wedding countdown having so few numbers in it.)

    Thanks!

     
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    cheerful    September 2009 - eloped  

    You don't need notes that they "thank you" on them. A nice piece of stationery is a truly lovely thing to receive in the mail and I always like the thank you notes better if they don't come on "thank you" note stationery. Traditionally it was even considered rude to have a preprinted "thankyou" on a card since it implied a insincere, not of-the-moment gratitude. As long as your thank yous aren't typed on a computer, generic message to everybody, or repurposed wrinkled paper, go for it!

     
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    smyley    May 2010  

    In all honesty,I'd MUCH rather have a nicely written-morethanthestandard-thank you sent to me on beautiful stationery! There's nothing worse than getting a tiny Thank You card with the handwriting so small you need magnification to read it!

    Do what you want. I'd love it.

     
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    RecessionistaBride    January 28, 2012  

    I think a handwritten note on stationary is SO much better than a card from the $1 bin at Michaels. It's so much more personal & pretty!

    I say save your money & delite the last round of guests with a good old fashioned thank you note :)

     
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    mary-alice-me    May 24, 2009   Kentucky

    Cheerful is right - traditionally you would use a plain card, or one with your initial on it. Store bought thank you cards are okay and I think they're acceptable now, but a plain card is fine. I'm not sure what you mean by your name and address embossed on your stationary, but if you think it's okay and only worry that it doesn't say thanks on it already, go for it.  (I'm thinking business letterhead? - I would not use that).

     
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    Lish    October 10th, 2009   Memphis, TN

    All of my thank you notes have been handmade/stamped with thank yous and ribbons and what not.  While I have plenty of the supplies left, I'm out of the plain cards - and my stationary is too pretty to add to it.

    For example - here's one I made with ribbon, gold thread, a stamp and some sparkly thread for the 'diamond'.

     

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    ejs4y8    June 20, 2009  

    Holy smokes you made your own thank you cards?!

    whoooooaaaaaa. I think the stationary is just fine by the way =]

     
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    oracle    October 23, 2010   Los Angeles

    That is SO cute - BUT - stop killing yourself over them!  Just do plain ol' notes with a heart-felt message! 

     
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    LatteLove    June 19, 2009   Chicago/San Diego

    If it were me I would go out an buy more (I just HAD to have all matching stationery).  But I think it's perfectly acceptable to use pretty stationery to thank your friends and family and I don't think it's improper at all!

     
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    stephinPA    October 29, 2010   Reading, PA

    No wonder you're tired of doing all of those thank you...you made them all!  And they are spectacular!  Very creative.  But stationary is just as good.  Personally I think writing on stationary is a lost art form.  And, I don't think it's improper etiquette either. 

     
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    Stacy Marie    July 24, 2010  

    I think any pretty stationary you find on sale would be just fine, because people will be happy to get a handwritten note.

     
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    wonderlanded    2 October 2010   London

    I agree -- pretty stationery is definitely fine and lovely to receive. But goodness your thank yous are beautiful!!

     
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    IA_Snowflake    August 29, 2009   Missouri Valley, IA

    I think the stationary is fine.  It's the thank you note that counts.  I LOVE your thank you notes you had.

     
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    alishaneva    May 2011   Lancaster, PA

    That card's adorabl;e - but seriously - the stationary is just fine! You're thanking people, and that is very sweet, and they'll e grateful that you're diong that!

     
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    jennifer_espos    June 18, 2010   NYC

    The thank you card you'd been sending out is really nice but a thank you is a thank you.  As long as its sent, it doesn't matter where it came from.  I've never been concerned with the quality of the thank you card.  Just appreciate getting it.  Which reminds me, I totally didn't get one from a friend of mine and I'm not happy about it.  Not even a verbal thank you!  I couldn't make it to her shower in May I missed but sent gifts- no thank you.  Then, knowing that their financial situation was rough, I gave them a crapload of money- still nothing!  Rude...

     
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    Jessie516    May 16, 2009   Ann Arbor, MI

    As long as you send a written thank you, I think it's totally fine if it's on your stationery instead of a dedicated Thank You card.

     
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    arizonabride    June 2, 2010   Tucson, AZ

    The Thank Yous that you DIYed are awesome, but there is no need to make more. Any kind of stationery or blank personal notecard will be appreciated.

     
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    MsMamaBear       Atlanta

    I agree with Jessie516- as long as it's a card, it's fine. Those cards are too cute and I'm officially gonna borrow that saying. LOL

    OFF THIS TOPIC--I know this may not sound nice, but I hate hearing brides complain about having so much time to send thank you cards. You send the invites out and made sure those got there, then thank those folks for the gift in a timely manner!

     
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    bluespurrs    August 7, 2009   South-central PA, USA, Earth

    I just went to the evil empire (er, Walmart) and bought a box of thank you cards. I saw no reason to spend a ton of money on them. 50 for like 8 bucks. Got three boxes and I was covered.The idea is to acknowledge gifts, kindnes or whatever and the majority of folks will glance at them, say that's nice and toss them in the trash.

     
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    jspeby    July 17, 2011   new york

    The handmade thank you notes are beautiful but I don't think it will matter what you stationary you send them on. At least you are sending thank you notes!!! My sister got married last summer and I still haven't gotten a thank you! =(

     
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    KlingonBride      

    Definitely, it is fine to use your stationery. That is more proper in fact, if you are concerned about etiquette. :-)

     
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    mdarrah    4/4/09   Los Angeles, CA

    Just make sure they are heartfelt thank yous and you are good to go on just about any paper. (well, anything a step up from notebook paper anyway.) :)

     

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